My mom has post tramatic stress disorder. She has borderline personality disorder and she has depression. She also suffers from short term memory loss. She was okay till I was about 10 then she started to remember everything that had happened to her as a child. She had flashbacks of the most horrid things happening to her. She has been suicidal ever since. She tried to commit suicide at least 15 times from the time I was 10 to the time I was 18 ( when I moved out) After that nothing changed much as far as her depression. I was there for her the whole time. I became the mother when she couldnt be. I went through a lot of emotional stress and mental abuse. We had a love hat e relationship. I did everything to try to help her and try to help her see the love/ beauty in herself and her life. But she just can't see it or experience it. I had a son and she was there for me a lot. But she was very disrespectful to me .... forgetting I am a grown woman and treating me like I am a child...not respecting my wishes as a mother and a parent etc. We had a falling out when I decided I didn't want my son or my self/ family subjected to any more of the caos. I had to walk away from her. It's been really hard. I have not had a good relationship or conversation with her for about a year and a half. This is long story short... anywyas. I feel like a better person for taking control of my own sanity by keeping myself away from her...but she thinks I'm just terrable for taking her away from her gransdon. There are a many reasons I did this that she won't admit or understand. But my husband and I agree it's the right thing to do. She's unhealthy, suicidal, and manipulative. I don't know anyone else who has the balls to stand up to their parents the way that I did. Comments and stories of your own are welcome
She sounds like my mum. She was always kicking me out for little things such as not tidying my room etc. Cutting an extremely long story short she was highly emotionally abusive towards me. As was my dad. They played me and my younger sister off one another and as a result caused hatred between us and she'll not have anything to do with me which breaks my heart as she is pregnant with a niece I'll never see. At 19 I'd had enough so I left. They expected me to come home but I stuck it out because I KNEW that their promises of "We'll Change" lasted for 2 months and they'd be back abusing me. No one knows about it as my parents lie about shit i've done. Needless to say I haven't seen them in 3 years. Sure, I get the odd abusive email saying how they'd wished they'd aborted me and how disappointed they are of me (I'm at university) because I'm not the designer handbag loving daughter they wanted. Well I'm now married, none of my family were invited because they'd kick off. My parents didn't give a shit that I was getting married. My husband wants nothing to do with them either and has never met them. I occassionally speak to an aunt and uncle who are very nice people. But I do not consider any one of my blood relatives family due to their complete disinterest in my life after I left (I'm talking about my extended family here). Not one of them gave a shit. As far as I'm aware, that family is falling apart. compared with how they were when I was little. My blood relatives only show interest in the members who have money. My family is now my husband and his family. So that's my story of how I stood up to them. You have every right to keep yourself away from her and do not let her bully you
mommie dearest is exactly what i call my 'dear' mother... i won't go in to my story...i'd be here all night if i started... just wanted to say i hear you both, know where you're coming from & support your decisions to make the break. it gets to the point you have to for your own sanity & peace of mind...& for the sake of your own loved ones/children. my mother was/is emotionally abusive & serioiusly manipulative. my father was actually the physically abusive one...he did her bidding...but as 'they' say it is the emotional/mental scars that take longer to heal. even now i am sure my aunts & even my own friends wonder how/why i could cut her out of my life...credit were credits due...she deserves an oscar she can act/fake for england & ppl will believe what they want to believe at the end of the day...whatever is easiest for them especially when they are blood related. but i know she knows i know what she is really like as a person...IYKWIM!! & plus she could never break me or even get me to cry whatever she did...even when i was very little i would look at her like she was mad/bad...both & she hated it!! take care...& take comfort in that yours never broke you either!!!
