I am a 19 year old virgin (I've never even had oral). All through high school, I went to a really conservative church that taught tht anything to do with sex- sexual thoughts, masturbation, even dating- were completely wrong. Because of that, I was never really into experimenting, by myself or with someone else. I almost never masturbate. Now I have a great boyfriend, very sweet and understanding and REALLY attractive, and we have gotten to the point where we have started discussing sex. The problem is, I'm no longer sensitive to anything. I rarely get turned on, and even when I try to pleasure myself, I don't get anything out of it and just give up. I'm afraid that I won't enjoy sex if I can't get turned on. Is there something wrong with me? Can anyone suggest anything that might help?
theres probably a whole lot that you guys havent even though of trying yet. and how experienced is your boyfriend? if hes new at the whole sex thing, then he is probably still learning what you like, and maybe using the same moves. show him something that you like, just by guiding his hand, or tell him. guys never know unless you tell them.
Has your sex drive always been low? I know some people naturally never peaked. If that's the case you can see a doctor.
The church broke you...but you can fix it. They have a knack for instilling dogma and dear into their followers to a point of brainwashing. free your mind and be human again.
God didn't make you that way! Men did, out of their moral corruption and willingness to break people as though they were porcelain dolls. For heaven's sake the two of you find a sex counselor (NOT in church work.) There you will find that experimenting with oral, both male and female, mutual masturbation, nude togetherness, and a healthy spiritual (not necessarily religious!) understanding of sex are Godsends! Go!!
