i am a horrible person

so i recently adopted a baby kitten from a friend of a friend. I've had him for about 4 months, and everything was great until i took it to the vet to get its shots...thats when i found out my kitty has FIV (which is the feline version of HIV!)..he got that shit from his mom. so they told me doesnt have long to live, and to just let his last moments be the best...
that was the plan until i found out that i couldnt have the kitty unless it was registered (when it gets its shots), and since they do inspections where i live (in the projects), we couldnt even sneak it.

Well the inspection was planned for today, at any time...
so after long thinking, i thought it would be best to take it to the adoption today...
I woke at 8 so i could take it to the rescue...I walk in they tell me i can't drop it off for another couple hours because they werent open to the public yet!

I was mad and sad and i didnt know what to do...so I ended up just leaving my kitty in the backyard of my friends old apartment complex
i came home and broke down crying, knowing i made a big mistake
it was so hard but i just left it there in this freezing weather, hoping someone will take it to a rescue.
but most likely it will die :'(

 

How sad!!!

i'm so sorry for your loss...

You know, freezing to death is one of the most pleasant ways to die ~ you're super cold, sure, but then you start feeling nice and warm and sleepy. imho, you gave it an humane death, much better than what was going to happen from the FIV.

i know it's rather expensive, but if you adopt from the shelters, you'll get a pet with a clean bill of health, that has been altered (spayed/neutered), and comes with it's registration. The last time i checked, it was under $100 to adopt, and if you go to a truly caring place, they might be able to help you with the costs.

i sure hope you are able to get another kitty ~ you sound like a responisble, loving person that any pet would be lucky to call Owner! :cheers2:

 

It may not have been the best idea to leave the kitty
but you did try and help it by first of all giving it a home
and taking it to the shelter

Im really sorry
i hope you get another kitty in the future

 

You are a horrible person and should be put out of misery yourself! Have you ever heard the term DOUCHE BAG?

 

I think it was wrong of you to leave that kitten like that. BTW, Fyrenza, how is it that you know that freezing is a good way to die? When's the last time you did it, or talked to someone who did? You shouldn't take in an animal unless you can affort to pay for any upcomeing medical bills or have a fit place to keep it. If you love animals, but can't afford one, volunteer at a shelter or walk your neighbors dogs. Give what you can, but don't commit to more than you can give.

 

What makes all of you assume it just curled up into a ball and died?

The way i see it, he coulda gotten near a car engine (underneath a car, the piping etc) to keep warm, maybe got stuck/starved for days... Maybe actually got cooked/cut/suffocated...

Maybe it got eaten alive by some animal while looking around/calling for help.

Theres a shitload of things that could have happened, so yeah, it wasnt a very good decision.

We all make mistakes, and to make it fair we can learn from them. Otherwise its an insult to anyone who got hurt due to us.
In the end, theres no good or bad. Just our actions and consuequences.

For all you know, someone going through a very tough stage in theyre life could have found that kitten, and maybe it woulda stoped them from making any rash and radical choices by cheering them up.

Endless possibilities.

You tried to help etc, so youre not a douchebag. You did something which has a likelyhood of a bad outcome, but we all do this.

 

It's easy to say that when it's just a cat, right? What if he had left a child. I know he didn't, but a person who could just leave a sick kitten on the street has no regard for life. There are so many other choices. He could have taken the cat to a shelter, or seen if there was someone else who would have taken it. It just shows that he regards this animal as an object with no worth, not a living thing worthy of compassion. It's people like him that are the reason that there is so much inhumanity in the world. Not the truely evil ones, but the apathetic self-centered ones. The ones not willing to do anything unless it benifits them.

 

Jesus Christ, people. He was actually trying to help it. Besides, he said he left it in someone's yard, it's probably ok.

 

Easy to say what? that theres no good or bad? A baby or a kitten is a life nonetheless. I dont have much sympathy for people, so if by saying a baby is more precious, i disagree, because its emotions telling you that.

And you can think however you like with these emotions, to you starving people in third world countries abandoning theyre children on door steps may seem like evil scum, but theyre not. They just made choices which turned out wrong, and then tried to make best of them.You telling me you never made a choice which went wrong? and the choices after that were somewhat blurry to try and fix/leave/forget it?

I didnt say what he did was right, im just saying it doesnt make him horrible. Just human.

 

There is a difference between making a bad choice in desperation or not knowing that it was a bad choice at the time. But he had other options and he knew that he was possibly harming this animal at the time of making the decision. He was not trying to help this cat. He didn't want to have to deal with the problems that this kitten would cause in his life. So he ditched it.
And he left it in the back yard of his friend's old appartment complex. As in, not a personal yard, and not with any person that he knew. Just the same as leaving it in some parking lot.

 

Someone probably found it and is feeding it as we speak.

 

I do want to say that it was in the best intrest of the cat to go somewhere safe. My baby Oliver died at only 8 months. his blood count was 6 when it should have been 60 . My mom flipped the bill for me, because i didn't know what was wrong with him , till i brought him to the vet. It was either a blood transfusion another type of surgery and because he was just a baby he wouldn't have survived the surgery because it would have been a shock to his whole body!! When i decided i had to let baby oliver go to heaven you should have seen all the junk that came out of him. All the infection and everything , he was a very unhealthy boy. I still to this day have professional pictures that i had taken of him. he was premature when he was born, given to me at only 5 weeks. I would suggest to you the next time you get an animal, whether or not you live in the projects try to do payment methods. I had to pay my mother back. But the end result was well worth it. It put oliver to rest and my mind to rest as well.

 

Fricknfrack - that must have been a hard decision to make. It's a bitter sweet ending whenever you have to decide between quality of life and end of life. But I believe it's better to allow them to rest peacefully. I'm sure you did what you did out of love for Oliver. When a painful death is the only other possible outcome, I'd hope that someone would show me the same love. I'm sorry for your loss.

 

when i was young, my cat died (of old age) outside my bedroom window. she'd been trying to get in, that was her door. my mother, wanting to hide mama's death from the little ones made me bag her up in a trash bag, then throw her in a dumpster behind a grocery store. it still makes me sick to think about it. poor ol' mama.

 

I had a premier GC show cat
Tonkenese show cat who was a 4 lbs mink coat silver hair ocean blue eyes and because of the food recall lil bopeep died however March 8/08 was an unexpected date that i did not know i had to bring her into the vet and i attempted to make payments. Most vets now want you to pay up front which i understand. But i made sure i told them the whole story before they fluffed me off. she was climbing walls one day play fighting with our other cat and doing her tricks and everything - the next day i wake up to go to school and ahes staggering. The most heartbreaking situation i have ever been in -in my life. Her head was tilted and everything. The dr gave us meds and sent us home . later did we find out there was a recall and thats how we figured out she was affected by the food her liver , bladder and kidneys went. She was so lethargic and skinny i couldn't do it anymore. she wouldn't eat do her tricks, didn't want her momma or the brush she loved her brush- she would greet me with the brush. But nope nothing. When i brought her to be put down she didn't even have enough energy to look at me . She only had enough to tell the vet she was going- The saddest day of my life i had her for 10 years. i suggest to anyone who is in this type of problem to make payment arrangements. I even told them i would give them my wedding rings and college cards in order to pay them up front on the next pay. I was so honest. Now my Seanna is so full of attention all by herself. My american short haired whose 6 y/o

 

You said the shelter would have opened in "a couple of hours"...what was more important than the kittens life that you couldnt have waited?Jeez poor thing

 

laziness, not willing to put forth effort. etc i can go on.

 

i live in a very tiny apt in an 8 plex an i live on the main street and i take in animals that are stray that are lost till the morning that they either have found their home i walk them to their home or i have called the humane soc . And on top of that the humane soc has not put them to sleep. I make sure i pick them up and they are warm, and my Seanna has a blanky . teehee

 

And making the OP feel like shit about something he already feels horrible about is REALLY going to help the situation as is. Look at these heroes, kicking people when they're down and telling them they made a bad decision when they're well aware of the bad decision.

 

its called fact of life . not rubbing anything in.