I'm online on a friday night while my friends are at a party getting drunk and having fun so to make me feel better I've been txting them messages in german using a free online translater. Now I'm thinking I can be in the book of records for the saddest person if only I wasn't so painfully shy I would be doing the same . I just feel so uncomfortable in large numbers of people yet despite my reclusiveness more people know me than I know them; it so doesn't make sense lol
hmm.. have you tried alcohol? It is a sedative, and it reduces fear of every kind. Perhapse it will reduce your fear of people.
don't be so scared....once ya get laid for the first time, all that shyness will go away marijuana/alcohol does help shyness temporarily, but if you want it to go away for good, ya just gotta talk and get rid of your fear of women/people.
Yup, drugs won't solve the problem permanently, but in your case I think alcohol can give you a good start. If you just can't help yourself on the log run, you could try autohypnosis. The changes you go through in hypnosis are permanent if you do it right. If you are using alcohol, don't let it be your only tool for it, because you will one day wake up not being able to do anything without alcohol. These are all solution-in-a-can solutions, but what you really need to do is change your attitude towards life, and study people and their behaviour more closely. Once they become predictable to you you will not be afraid of them. We fear what we don't understand.
Believe it or not, I use to be shy... You just need to know that you gotta go out and have some fun and such..who cares what people think and such..ya know..I can only imagine what people think of me, but I go out and have fun..And everyone is shy, in their own way they are...And your not sad, thats not sad at all..I do that sometimes
You just have to be yourself, if your not you, no one else will be, so you have to, you see? Hehe I used to be shy too :& until I realized there is no point in wasting time not being who you are and doing what you want to do... Embrace your inner drunk... You know that little voice inside that doesn't give a fuck what people think, and is only out to enjoy itself... Or something like that, hehe I don't know wtf I'm talking about... Yeah just err.. What she said ^^
Alcohol will help in one-off instances like this... why else is it called a social lubricant? I bet everyone at that party will be drinking - ha-HA, you're not the only one who feels awkward at parties ya know. Social anxiety is extremely common.
what did I write? trying to remember now one was if you can read this you're not drunk, I'm going to tell them if they ask what those txts were that they must of been pretty drunk not to know what they were lol cruel joke I seem to be friends mainly with females lol I'm good at being friends I seem to have something they like because I've been taken underwear shopping by a couple of them so I don't think I'm worried about what people think of me when I'm with friends but by myself completly inward lol yet I work in a supermarket and have no problem dealing with people if I could figure what I do in that situation that makes me comfortable then maybe it would work in others I don't know thanks for letting me air this you are all wonderful people!!
I've had that problem my entire teenager life. Didn't even have anyone to text (no phone anyway) Drink doesn't help, unless you are very careful/experienced with it. A wise friend of mine pointed out that when drunk we become the person we wouldn't want to be drunk. Just feel the fear and do it anyway, you'll be so much stronger for it. Start with smaller or more organised events then go from there. Drag along plenty of friends for moral suppourt. Look for the other wall flowers (there are always some) and imagine they are more scared than you. Visualise yourself as happy, confidence and enjoying yourself, then it will come true. Hope that helps, good luck.
I'm sorry bud! We all have our irrational fears, though. You just have to think, what's the worst thing that they're going to do to you if you do or say something stupid? They're not going to kill you for it. lol They might crack on you, but you know, it's all in good fun usually, and if it's not, whata you care? Fuck 'em if they can't take a joke! Marijuana is a better social lubricant than Alcohol for me, but it depends on the person. Both can be fun , though. I get so stupid on alcohol, mainly because I can't drink just a little. Stupid can be fun, though. lol If you don't enjoy spending time alone at home on a Friday, though, you should just get out and go, man. It won't always work out in your favor if just let it go, but you'll usually have a lot of fun if you just say "fuck it". The first time I said "fuck it" I got arrested for something, but hey, after that one time I had a lot of fun just letting it go.
~ like a friend often says, "fortune favors the bold". What is there really to be shy or afraid of? Doing/saying something stupid? Hell, thats just a part of the human condition~! You end up missing out. No never killed anyone. Whats the worse that could happen? You not be included, told no? well, sounds like what yer already doing to yourself.
you must be looking too deep its very simple its about genetic engeineering and a human gene added to a cow so it can now talk and read and write and stand up right, basically the cow is on behalf of other cows is saying what working conditions they want
