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Eighteen? Well geepers, we better let her be. Age has absolutely nothing to do with how this kid should be living. Have you no notion in that little brain of yours that people develop at much different paces?

You are very wrong in your assumption, that telling her to save money and move away from the people that love her most will do her well. You have made it quite clear that you have never been in such a situation. Only someone who has never been there will give such bad advice.
If she was to save up some money and move out from where she is loved most and ended up a prostitute and drug addict it would be directly and necessarily at the fault of her saving up some money (for a months rent) and moving the hell away from the people that are going to love her unconditionally.

Of course if you think her family loves her less than the ex boyfriend than by all means keep giving advice.

 

im not running to "my man" if anything im keeping a lot of the details from him. i dont want to tell him about all of the physical and mostly emotional abuse im going through. he broke up because he was sick of having to deal with my parents all the time. almost every time i went over to his house, my dad would call and tell me to come home for one reason or another, even though i told my mom where i was already. it was my dad that didn't want me around him in the first place and soon enough my mom was with him on that, i guess he talked her into it, he's pretty persusive when he gets upset.

on the issue of "their house, their rules" this guy isn't even coming into the house anymore, he hasnt been here for over a month. the thing is, my parents don't want me near him, even outside of the house...and my dad told me last night that if he catches me with him at all he's kicking me out of the house. that is what i'm saying is completely unfair. and he keeps telling me how my ex "used me and then left me." "he screwed you, got what he wanted and left you." that's the kind of emotional abuse he's putting me through, and it's not true, i know that for sure. my parents think he's the fucking devil and he's not...hell, they think I'M the fucking devil...telling me that I fucked up our family just by choosing the be with him...

and I am leaving this fucking house as soon as i can.

 

Sounds like you made up your mind then. Best of luck to you. I moved out when I was 18. Got an apartment by myself. It was really hard work, but it's possible to do. I think I lived off of mac and cheese for the first year, but it was nice to have my own space.

Hopefully when you move out and things cool down, you and your parents will be able to maintain a more healthy relationship. Good luck with everything.

 

OSF---

You assume much, and know nothing. I'm not going to waste my time arguing with you about this, it's pointless.


Gloom, I wish you the best of luck. Getting out on your own is hard, but it's not impossible as some people would have it seem. If that was the case everyone here would still be living with their parents Its very apparent that you are in a bad situation, and you need to get out of there as soon as possible. Just make sure you do it right, or else you'll be right back there with them, or homeless.

By the way, is this your last year of school?

 

I hate to sound cliche, but maybe they know a bit better.

This is the deal: if you give your parents a reason to doubt your every action, then they will. If you want them to stop hating your friends or stop calling you a whore or whatever else way they're mistreating you, then try meeting them half way and change your ways a bit.

And hey, you're 18 now. If you want to be treated as an adult, by moving out or running away from whatever problems you and your family has really is an immature alternative right now.

Make some more mature decisions with your life right now and give your folks a reason to trust you, and go from there.