allrighgt people here it goes, as of lately i have been starting to question my sexuality hardcore which i think is pretty good like testing out the whole anal stuff and i actually enjoy it...first off iam 18 and always been attracted to women and girls of all ages..however i remember being younger and playing around with some of my good boy friends too and loved it....heres the problem, i say iam bisexual which i believe is the answer but it fits but not fully, i say iam gay and it fits but then theres the attraction to women which is a huge attraction, i say straight and then the somewhat atttraction to guys comes in...any advice would help...only had sex with a girl once but i loved it...never done anything with a guy but i getting curious but still dont have the balls to do anything, well atleast since i was kid which was innocent fun lol also i have very femenistic ways but i act like a guy, the whole situation is a mindfuck lol...thanks again,,,wish everyone a amazing new year:cheers2:
If you're looking for a more precise label, I would suggest bicurious, since you haven't settled yet. That said, I went around for about four years calling myself bisexual or pansexual without having ever had a single sexual encounter. Figuring out what to call yourself can be confusing at first, but you eventually just get comfortable being you and not worrying too much about labels. I ended up using whatever was convenient to tell people so I didn't have to explain much. Because, after all, the labels are there to describe your feelings, not define them. You have to look within for that.
Don't worry too much about what label to be giving yourself, especially if you haven't even gotten a dude before. I know what its like feeling the need to define things right away when you're questioning things, but you're going to need to give yourself time. You can't just decide that you're going to know what your sexuality is all of a sudden- it requires experience, and until you do that you won't really know. When I first came out, it was as bisexual because I had been dating a girl for over a year, so I thought there was no way I was completely gay. After coming out to my girlfriend as bisexual (and all my family and friends) I began to grow more interested in trying things out with a guy. I asked my girlfriend if it was cool to try kissing a dude, and she said it would be. I talked to a friend of mine who I had always known to be cool with talkng about sexuality, and she knew someone who was also bi-curious. She introducted us and we both had our first experience with a dude together. After processing the event, I realized that I had never been sexually turned-on by a girl before and that dudes did turn me on. So it helped me see that I was gay, and I came out as gay and the rest doesnt really matter. My point is, is that you needta try things out, which you may not get to do immediately, but seeing that you live in NYC (the fact that you're in any city at all) you shouldn't have a problem finding gay/bisexual people. Talk to friends who you think would know someone else, or try and meet some gay/bi dudes and let them know your situation- you're interested in testing out the waters with dudes. There are many people that would be willing to help someone else out with figuring out their sexuality. I remember the feeling of first kissing a dude- before it happened it just felt almost wrong or something, although I knew there was nothing wrong with it- I just wasn't used to expressing affection towards a dude- so just know that if you feel funny, you're feelings arent wrong, you're just trying something new, and dont be afraid. We're all humans who just wanna be loved and make love and love others, regardless of gender or orientation. Good luck!
bro you are god lol thanks for that and iam happy that everything came through for you....anywas i plan on doing all that when i start college at the end of this month, but as for now its all about guitar and bisexualness i guess haha .....peace and love brother :cheers2:
