im a small girl and i seem to have the problem that when i go to have sex it is hard for the guys penis to get in there, and when it does it often pops out my question to all of you is.. how can i possibly make myself less tight or just a little bigger so that the next time around i dont have to face that problem
you could have him finger you with one finger first then when he gets u hot and wet enough go to two fingers ect. it helps if he's licking you pussy while doing this as to make for more lubrication, after he has got u wet and streched enough he should no problems being able to fuck u proper
some guys really get off on the whole watching a girl pleasure herself. it i was a guy i'd watch, for sure...
Additionally you could try a toy. Nothing industrial grade or anything, but you can get small variable speed vibes VERY cheap online. I mean under £5 cheap (or equivelant in whatever your home currency is). Either let him explore you with it, or you do it yourself. You can do it at a time that suits you, or if you're up for it, try doing it infront of him. Enforcing a "look but you cant touch" rule will get him extremely hot, whilst hopefully doing the same for yourself and getting the elasticity going. Be creative!
Find a man that is all about you FIRST,then you should have no problem with size...One size fits all!!!
Start using toys, objects, or veggies to masturbate with. Do vaginal penetration daily when masturbating, and gradually use thicker toys or veggies till you are comfortable accomodating a cuccumber. It works for anal that way too. I'd tell you to be sure that you are very aroused when with the guy, but that shouldn't need mentioning.
I was around 35 when I met a woman named Jackie, about the same age. I have missed her a lot over the years and regret leaving her for someone who really messed up my life. But the thing was, she was very thin/petite. I'm about average size. No matter how hard I was or how much lube we used it just was too tight. So we had an "oral only" relationship. We spent hours together just having oral every way you can think of. It was great. No fear of pregnancy and better than any woman I ever knew. People need to consider oral only relationships, they can be fantastic. I miss her a lot.
My fiance and I had a oral only relationship for the first 3 years. When we had sex it brought us sooo much closer. Oral only for us was kinda half assing our intimacy. -not saying it was the same for you- just try the gradual sizzing up of toys as mentioned before...that sounds like the best way to get it to fit.
This is what you need to do. You need to teach him to go down on you. I don't mean the perfunctory lick or two many young men seem to believe is sufficient. I mean you need to train him to really make you orgasm once, twice at least. A woman's vagina's "geometry" for lack of a better word changes quite a bit during and shortly after an orgasm, it kind of "elongates" and swells a bit in ways that most biologists believe is to increase the chances of fertilization. In any event, shortly after your second orgasm he should start slowly (yet vigorously) fucking you. I had this problem myself, although I don't any longer except if I remain celibate for too long which I try to avoid. Another option is if you're interested in spending money buy sex toys of gradually increasing sizes. Buy one that it is almost uncomfortable, but isn't, and enjoy it often for a week or so and then buy a slightly larger one and repeat this until you can "accomadate" your boyfriend.
