haha, i was totally ignorant of this fact. i prefer to be the one NOT restrained when i'm with a lover, but i like switching it up, too.... anyway, i have a pair of handcuffs that used to belong to my ex...she looked way better in them than i do, but i took them out for the first time in a loooooong while last night....and damn.... it makes masturbation more difficult, but also way more fun.... i felt good for a very long while afterwards....and i kind of miss the red lines on my wrists anyway, just thought i'd share. for folks into this kinda thing, you dont need someone else, even if tandem is more fun give it a try if you havent:cheers2: