I've been friends with this girl for years, and recently we've gotten way closer and it's obvious that we like each other etc. Now I'm a fairly shy guy, and she's pretty shy aswell so nothing really happened for a while...now it was painfully obvious we liked each other, so anyway we kissed one night and then I didn't see her for a few days. Then I saw her again and she just kept rejecting me, then paid all her attention to another guy there. It's so confusing because before she always acted like the sweetest girl in the world and I know she wouldn't dream of hurting anyone, we know each other pretty well but then all of a sudden...just raelly confused me. Is this just another example of women being strange?
Sounds like the kiss didn't go so well to her. It's just another example of people thinking they may be attracted to someone only to find out they're not. I wouldn't let yourself get all confused or down over it. Your very young and will have many more chances to find a girl who likes you and wants to be with you. It doesn't sound like this girl will be that one, so just let her go. There's plenty more fish in the sea my friend. Good luck.
Yeah but then I talked to her about it and she said she wanted to take things slow because she's scared of seriousness...I think you guys are right!
Sweetheart, unfortunately I don't think she's all that into you. But take it from me, that shouldn't be much of a problem seeing as there are a lot of single girls (like myself!) in the world today. We gals outnumber you dudes so you won't find a shortage anytime soon.
Partner, take this from me, when a girl wants you, she come to you. Girls don't like being avoided, they love attention and if she likes you, even if she's avoiding you in person, she'll try and make back up big time by chatting online or on the phone.
Yeah I guess I was being kind of blind. but now she's still coming onto me. I don't really know what to do because she treated me the way she did. But I think I'm going to forget about her, gotta have some pride as you said, plenty more girls..
She's still coming onto you aye. Boy, I tell you, it's very freakin hard to figure out a woman. They show interest, then like ignore you for a month, then they're back again. ha ha
All those details sound exactly like what I'm going through right now, except for I'm the girl in the situation. I also told my guy friend that i wanted to take it slow, and I pretty much ignored him for another guy. From a girl who sounds just like the girl that you just described, I would move on. If you don't she just might end up hurting you, because obviously she doesn't know what she wants. If she wants you she will come to you. But don't wait around for her, there are plenty of girls out there.
I would give it some more time. If she really is this shy, maybe she just doesn't know what to do with herself, entering a new relationship and everything. Don't forget her so quickly. Start spending a lot of time with her, get closer to her, etc. If, after a month, you still feel like she's rejecting you, then leave, but don't be so quick. I know that I wouldn't be in the fantastic relationship I'm in right now if my boyfriend didn't persist and put up with my bullshit when I was trying to figure out what I wanted.
