I've been casually dating this girl for 3 months. I apologize if this is long but I wanted to express my problem in detail. We have not been intimate but our times together are great. We are exactly the same, even her parents like me a lot. She can tell me anything and she usually does. She got out of an 8yr relationship over a year ago. Knowing this ive been taking things slowly. As things progressed I've started to like her more. For Christmas I got her something really nice, something she never expected. She also got me something, it was very sweet and thoughtful. It was so sweet at this point I knew I was beginning to fall for her. I've given hints like kisses on the cheeks and hugs, although she doesn't react to them at all. She was sick last week. And I made a surprise visit with a carepack to help her feel better. She seemed to appreciate that a lot, even called me later in the night to make sure I got home ok. Signs like that make me think that she is starting to care more, but any type of affection I give goes unnoticed. I can't tell where we stand. Sometimes it seems she doesn't want anything to do with me, sometimes she acts really into me. When we talk we laugh a lot and know she is having a good time. She is probably one of the first girls ive ever felt this comfortable around. I know we should talk, but I'm trying to prevent any chance of making things uncomfortable. I really want to try to make this work. Maybe I should just leave her alone for a week or two? Will that make her think I don't care? Based on the details, any advice based on experience?
You could be in the dreaded friend zone. She may like you a bunch as a friend, but not like a boyfriend and she doesn't want to let you down.
The key to any relationship is communication. Even though you may be afraid of the answer, you need to tell her how you feel. I suggest just mentioning liking her in a romantic way and listen to her response. If she thinks that is what you want, you have peace of mind and can't continue to grow the relationship. If she just wants to be friends, you have a choice to keep spending the same amount of time, or cut back. I would cut back and still be her friend, in case things change down the road. Even though, it is hard, I believe it is best to find out now. Your feelings will continue to grow and if she just wants to be friends, your disappointment will increased. I wish you good luck and if she doesn't feel the same way, there are others out there. Sometimes friendships do lead to romance.
Thanks for all the responses! I did talk to her and ask how she felt. She said she was crazy about about me at the begining but felt that I didn't like her that much. We talked about us at the beginning of the relationship and I told her I thought there was potential for us in the future. She took that as "I like you, but not that much". Since then she has been slowly pushing me away. I told her today that is not what I meant, that I was crazy about her since day one. I told her I held back from telling her how I really felt because I didn't want her to think I was rushing things. She was completely surprised, and actually started crying. She was crazy about me, but took what I said the wrong way and decided from that point to put a wall up. So now she told me she doesn't know how she feels because she spent all this time trying to keep me out of her heart, and never knew that I was crazy about her. So now its really confusing, and who knows what she will do now...
Well I hope for the best. However she said she doesn't know how she feels now, because she never knew that I liked her that much. She has spent all this time converting me to just a friend, blocking her feelings until now she doesn't have romantic intentions. I'm fearful that she truly has blocked me. She was crying though when I admitted my feelings, so maybe that's a sign she still has some for me.
