I was wondering if anyone here is dating or involved with someone who has children. I do not have any kids but my boyfriend does. I was just wondering if anyone has any advice from experience? Things have been good so far, I just want to keep it that way!
I have kids and have been a single father for over 2 years. I never let anyone I was dating meet my kids. I kept it completely seperate. I did not want to bring people into and out of their lives. It is usually a little much for them. My ex-wife brings men into my kids lives all the time and it is kind of hurtful for the kids. They can't keep tract of them and it confuses them. Your best off to take it slowly. Get comfortable with your boyfriend and then the kids. Lunch or day type things where you meet them, hang out, then leave are good things. Don't believe what you see in the movies. Kids can be possesive of their parents. Especially if he spends lots of time with them like I do. I have my kids about 60% of the time and when they are with me, their mother never talks to them, so my first experience with my kids and a date was not positive. Take it slow and remeber, you are the adult.
Dealing with children with your boyfriend or girlfriend can be tough. Many times the kids have resentment for you , because you are an obstacle to the parents getting back together. It is easier to deal with children that are younger. Take it slow and get to know them. Find out things they like and try to do little things to make them happy. If the relationship gets serious, then you will need a discussion with your boyfriend about discipline, etc. If you can't get along with the kids, the relationship will die.
