I dated a girl in high school for only about 2 months. She was my first girlfriend. She split up with me and a month or so later I found out she was a lesbian. My junior year I met my long term girlfriend, Jackie. I dated her for 4.5 years and proposed to her back in March. Our sex life was always really rocky. I wanted it more than her but I always figured it was just because I’m a guy and we generally have a higher drive. I never really worried about it that much. Then she told me about 2 years into our relationship that she thinks she was bi. I figured that’s cool. Then it turned into “I’m sure I’m bi and I think I like girls more.” This went on until the point where she had no interest in me and I’d often see her starring at girls when we went out. After 2 months of being engaged she pretty much came out and told me she’s totally gay and has been making plans with meeting girls and couldn’t find the courage to tell me until then. On top of being completely heartbroken and alone I was also pretty messed up psychologically by the fact that she never felt the same about me as I did her and our sex life was all pretty much forced and fake. A couple months later I met my most recent girlfriend, Dustie. We went out several times before becoming official (she actually had to ask me because I was so messed up from Jackie.) Dustie had had 4 boyfriends before me and was very sexual. Our first 2 or 3 weeks together were amazing. She’d always tell me how good I looked, how crazy Jackie was for going gay, and was very sexual with me. Jackie and I are still good friends and we’d hang out even when I started dating Dustie. I of course made sure this didn’t bother her and she said it didn’t because Jackie is gay. Eventually the two of them met and actually got along great. Then over the course of the next week or so I noticed Dustie becoming increasingly irritable with me and no longer showed much interest sexually. It got so bad that I ended up breaking up with her because she’d yell at me for texting her during the day. She’d say, “You don’t have to update me on your life everyday!” Just a few nights ago Jackie told me the two of them hung out and Dustie told Jackie she thinks she’s gay too. When I heard this it was so unreal to me that I could barely even think about it. I remember saying to Jackie, “This can’t possibly be happening to me again” and she just said, “yea, I’m sorry, I think it is.” Dustie, like Jackie, I treated like a queen. I never raised my voice at her, never swore at her, called her everyday, and texted her every night wishing her a good night sleep. If she was sick I’d drive over and bring her food or coffee. If she was depressed I’d stay up talking to her. She just started college and I went with her to register for classes at her community college. I took her out to movies and dinner every weekend. I constantly told her she was beautiful and special to me. I’d invite her over, get her hot chocolate, and give her back massages. Hell sometimes I’d even go down on her and not even ask for anything back. So my question is this: why is that there are so many disgusting scumbag asshole guys out there treating their girls like dirt and this kind of shit is happening to me? I never once did anything to deserve this… I did everything I could to be the perfect boyfriend. I’m in shape, have good hygiene, and have at least a decent fashion sense. I don’t belch in front of them. I open car doors for them. I pay for them whenever I can. I buy them flowers, kiss them every night before dropping them off at home. I walk them into their houses when it’s dark or icey… I just can’t believe what’s going on here, every girl I like turns gay on me and I’m at the point where I the idea of dating again scares the hell out of me. I’m 21, healthy, in school, working, and very affectionate. Bullocks. This shit is wacked. Can anyone tell me if I’m doing something horribly wrong or does god just like kicking me in balls?
I think you are having an extreme bout of bad luck with women. And it's the age group. Dustie's prob NOT gay. Although she may be bi-curious as a lot of girls/women are around that age. And depending on who she's hanging out with (ie, your ex) she may be getting pressure to try something else. Most girls who think it's fun and 'sexy' to have a girlfriend will chicken out when it gets down to the actual sex parts. For some reason, it's still the cool thing to do for some girls. Maybe I'm wrong. But it's not you. Really.
I agree that you are having bad luck and that many people think they are gay when they are younger. Dont let it bug you too much though, if thats you in the picture then you certainly arent lacking in the looks department and it sounds like you make a great boyfriend.
Damn. That sucks, man. I'll have to agree with those guys that it's just a phase, but three girls! It's a bit of a coincidence, I reckon. Bad luck.
