My father, the police officer.

No offence to you, but show that ass hole The Union. There HAVE been government studies that prove weed isnt bad for you, but they dont publish/publicize them. Its probably to late. I mean come on.... a cop? Good Luck Changing His Opinion.

 

I would feel like an asshole. I don't like to lie. I told him straight up that I want to smoke marijuana and he's not going to change my mind on it. I might not do it while i'm under his roof but he better count on me doing it when i'm gone.

 

dude just show him you can be successful and be all you can be give him something to be proud of and if he cant see it shit well then its not your prob and now you have a good life right??

 

There is no hope of having him accept that you smoke, so you should just make sure you never get caught

 

...................................................................................................

If Dad is really....Reallly....REALLY with the Narcs then he knows

He knows better than anybody else on planet earth that weed is the mildest, most innocent of all mans vices.

Weed doesnt break marrigaes or drive famlies to bankruptcy or violence.
Weed by itself does not corrupt the soul.

What is really going on here is that your Dad has to straddle the truth versus the justification for his employment, medical converage, rent and pension.

Each Adult in job has to straddle truth somewhat. whatever the profession.

For the Narc its a big straddle. He has to demonize weeed as part of collective narc groupthink. Its his identity.

Accept that the odds are against you changing it.

 

this is the best advice

 

OK guys,

Here is the best way to deal with things... This is from a parents perspective, and I belive it may be the best way to handle things for both of you.

I'm guessing your not a very young kid, as you mentioned you could move out if you find a better paying job.

Here is what you need to do.... (if you want some type of relationship with your dad).

Be honest... Approach your dad when he is a decent mood... he will listen better then. Remind him that being a cop is nothing more than a JOB. This is just a job that pays the bills... You on the other hand are his son. Remind him that just as he does not belive everything his parents taught him, you do not, nor will you ever be on the same wavelength as him in terms of your views on weed... Tell him, your veiwes will not change... and that if he continues to supprise you with drug tests, lectures that you don't need, or just negativity wich causes you pain and problems in your life... tell him that he is RUINING his relationship with you... and that in a couple years when you are gone... he just may find himself in the same situation most cops get themselves into.. he will have a son he barley knows... you will not have much in common with him. Tell him father son bonding takes place when the kids live at home... once you leave... he will be alone. Ask him if a stupid job is worth that? Ask him if he would compromise his belives or morals for some elses job? and tell him you will not comprimise yours. You have your life... Your life is short... you do not need to live it for other people. Remind your dad that you do not, nor will you ever expect him to live his life for someone else in return. We have all been given a short amount of time here... so we need to live our lives the way we choose. As long as we are not hurting anyone else in the process... we should live the way we choose. and if he starts to tell you your hurting yourself doing drugs... Inform him that it is not a debatable subject anymore... its 2009... and everyone knows that weed is much less harmful than beer and wine... does he drink? this is something you'll find supportive evidence very easily.

You need to be very strong.. and fight for this one. This is no way for a parent to raise thier kids, unless they want to have a very superfisial relationship with them down the road.

Tell your dad you love him.. you've never treated him the way he seems to be treating you... and that you do not want anything other than a close loving relationship with him... but if he does not stop being a dictator to you... you really do not see a good future for the both of you.

Try to do this at a good time... even ask him to go out for a coffee with you.... perhaps bring him something to read afterwords... also please remember... this will be hard for him too. He also has been brain washed by society... He is a cop, and probably thinks he is helping people. Perhaps you should do some reasearch into why weed is illegal in the first place... checkout what the pharmacuitical companies are doing... you can also find some good info on the prohabision here:

http://www.phoenixtears.ca/

Anyhow, good luck dude... just remember, your not fighting over weed... your fighting for a relationship.. what I read in your post was quite distrubing... I hope things work out well for the both of you... and you guys can rebuild and bond as I always hope to with my kids.

take care man, and good luck
Soc

 

I guarentee the first thing he'd say is "we won't have any relationship at all when you're in jail" trust me I've done so much research and still continue to do so, he either refused to believe it or says " I don't care. Bottom line, it's illegal"

 

Dude, TALK TO HIM! but do it intellegently..

Simply answer: Bottom line is:

No one goes to jail for weed..

bottom line is.. its a hurb - not a drug.

Remind him the law is a sleeping giant (he will know what that means). Years ago, he could have also done time if he was caught with a beer... there are many laws that are so obsolete.. its almost shamefull that they exist.

And tell him.. Bottom line is... you are a free thinker... and that will never change...

 

So i'm gonna go talk to him, intelligently i might add, and tell someone who literally puts people in jail for weed... that it doesn't happen. I don't follow your logic. Kthxbi

 

dude - Where do you live? People don't go to jail for weed? At least not where I'm from... I've smoke with cops, been caught many times by the police (they don't care dude - I don't think your dad is being honest with you). they have "real" criminals in Toronto to catch.. not some 40 year old man smoking a doob... or some highschool kid getting blazed with his gf... See, in Toronto, it would be quite frowned about by all cops if some newbie rookie busted a kid with weed... waisted time on that, when we have gangs, guns, theives, rapists, murders... fuck, they even leave the methheads and crackers alone... do you really think they acctually care about weed?

cops are not as dumb as people seem to think they are... and they don't go around trying to find kids with pot... chances are, they did that themselves when they were young.

 

People here do go to jail for weed in most states, not "jail" but you will be arrested most likely, and then be put on probation in the end even for just possession.

 

maybe over there in Canada your that lucky but here the only "drug" the police chase is weed and teenagers are the targets, at least here thats how it seems. In the last 2 months alone iv lost nearly 200€ from busts and houses getting raided, the police here are a fucking disgrace, a pathetic quota filling force that victimises the easiest group possible.

Teenagers are of course going to be smoking in well known places, especially at weekends due to parents and shit, all the pigs have to do is park up next to them and get a few easy "busts"
It fucking sickens me, in the last two months i had to get rid of my bong, plants and everything because there were so many busts and a rat in my small town (pop-5000)

 

Holy crap.... man what can I say guys... other than sorry to hear that... so... they leave the meth heads alone... and bust kids with herb...

Anyhow, lets hope Obama fixes some of this shit over in your area... if he does, cops may have to acctually do thier jobs, and go after real criminals kinda takes the fun out of the job if "real danger" is involved...

Peace and good luck dude...
Soc

 

Obama is a punk ass buster. He won't do shit. Fuck Obama. I hope Ron Paul takes a shit in his bed sheets.

 

haha i doubt Obama can or cares about a little town on the south of ireland
There are no methheads or labs here anyway, ket, acid, speed, mushrooms (season time) and mdma seem to be the most prominent drugs here. Im pretty lucky cus i can just smoke at home or at friends houses but smoking around town is pretty much out of the question. living right on the main road going west out of town and having checkpoints just down the road every weekend adds to the paranoia a good bit. Cut skunk is another problem and it seems that after examining a bag of skunk everytime we buy theres usually glass sprayed on it which at a glance look like crystals but when you have a close look its just little shards of glass, its not all like that but from town connections a lot of it is. Homegrown and pollen from way out in the countryside is always top quality and cheaper too instead of 50 an 8th of cut skunk or just skunk you get a max price of 10 a gram.

Still best way is grow your own, was growing indoors but after a month or two i realised that growing and living on the main road dont go together at all and the last thing i want is to get me and my mum kicked out, shes been through a lot this year and that would just be too much.
So instead im planning a big guerilla grow starting at around St. Patricks day.
Haha shit sorry for the essay

 

Dude, No offense but a few of my very good friends have done a little time in prison for just marijuana. It's a reality out there that many people don't realize is actually happening. So many smokers out there want to just chill and relax and smoke, and think they will never end up in jail but it's happening and it really sucks. Granted they had a lot more than your average person would have, someone needs to do it to allow small time smokers to even have any.

 

Oh by the way bro....show your dad "never get busted" videos by Barry Cooper, he used to be one of the top narcotics police officers in the country and has since turned to the other side and has a lot of good arguments against marijuana prohibition.

 

I know that when it comes to my family they're both radical old age christians and I've tried everything I could've back when I lived with em to convince em pot wasn't bad, among other things. It really depends on how hard headed your pops is man. Some people are just too stubborn and set in their ways to understand or even listen.

 

i've showed him so many videos/articles/tried getting him to read various books. fuckin waste of time.