because I dont know where else to put this, I'll feel like Id get criticize elsewhere... anyways I've been feeling less interested in guys lately. I noticed this when I started talking to a few guy I met and I got bored. Im looking for someone to flirt with, not relationship but the more GUYS I meet, i become less interested in them and actually more interested in girls I feel much more comfortable around them and they have spark to them where guys are a bit dull and cant make a convo worth shit I get nowhere with them and they do this all the time, its the same shit over and over... "whats up baby" "omg ur so sexy" now i know thats naive boys but seems like thats all i see nowadays. Im even sick of the "nice guy" talk I was hanging out with my friends, one, who is bi and has a liking to me, we hit it off fast, shes fun and exciting and actually listens and gives good advice Its a really hard process to change from guy to girl my family's okay with it...I havent mention this stage yet to them but they joked a few times about dating girls and were fine with it I really dont want to deal with the already bi people saying "oh you have to be born into it" bullshit talk because thats not true. So I just need a descent response please
Sexual preference is like food tastes. You need sex, and sometimes you're hungry for this, and sometimes that, and we usually have a flavor we prefer above all others but sometimes we'd like to try something different. As for nature vs. nurture, I use the same argument. I don't like liver (I wasn't always a vegetarian, kids.). My mother swears that I really do, because I loved it until my grandfather told me how yukky it was. Now she still blames him for ruining my love of liver, and insists that I was not born hating liver. Does this change the fact that I don't like liver now? What made me bi? Who knows? I've never understood heterosexuality, even when I thought I was heterosexual. Blame Jessica Alba. She was my first recognized desire of a female. I realized that many of the girls that I had idolized in puberty were crushes, while the boys I had crushed on were mostly for show. Maybe I was born with it, and maybe my all-girl upbringing (mom and sisters, with father gone on a truck all of the time) conditioned me. Who cares, really? If you'd like to date a woman, go for it. If it doesn't work out, and you return to males, so what? A lover is not a religious conversion. It's a taste.
I say I was born bi because I have NEVER not been bi, I've had love interests in girls just as long as I have liked men. HOWEVER, thats not to say that you would identify with your sexuality for that long to ALSO to bi. If you think you like chicks, go nuts.
Just be yourself. If you want to try women, go for it. Some people don't realize they like the same sex til later in life, but it's all good when you figure it out.
i don't think thats a sign. me and my friend emily like lesbian porn, but i'd get with a chick in a second, however she would never 'hook up' with a chick. she refers to herself as 'strictly straight, except for a few drunken girl kisses' if you think you like girls, go out and get yourself one! i was in a 3 year relationship with a dude and when i started dating him i was only into guys. partially through our relationship i found myself liking girls more and more, but i would never have left him for a woman. now that we're broken up, i don't think i would ever be with another man. and this all started when i was 14. so no, you aren't 'born into it', its just something about you that changes, i think. and its never a bad change, you should always do whatever is best for you.
Labels suck anyway. Just be you. I went through a time a few years ago where I wasn't sure I was interested in boys anymore. I felt more comfortable with girls. Then I met a boy that was right for me and now I'm with him, but if that soul had been in a female body I could just as easily be with a girl right now. Just find the person that you're comfortable with and is comfortable with you. Don't sweat the gender stuff.
