How do you know?

Ok, like I must be the most naive girl in the entire world, but I just honestly have no idea how to tell if a guy is interested, or just wants to be friends.

Is there something that men do that clearly makes the distinction?

I realise that this is a really stupid and childish question, but if anyone could find time to give me a clue I would really appreciate it!

ta!

 

Well if he is interested he will try to appear smart and sexy and cool. Otherwise he'll be himself

If he is not that immature then he will probably make a move himself.

In any case I believe that we always know deep inside if the person that we have feelings for feels the same. The problem is when we feel that he doesn't we prefer to be blind.

So you are the most able person to answer your question.

 

Sometimes a hint is when his looking if you catch him he will turn away and blush, or twiddling a pen or straw wenhe see's you can meanhis sexually attracted to you, but why don't you just make the first move? you never know until you do.

 

I would never have the courage to make the first move! Its pathetic, but its true.

We get along really well, we went away for a weekend together not long ago, and we had a good time, nothing happened, but we were staying with some of my family so maybe thats why....it kinda felt like it was going somewhere a few times during the weekend.

He laughs at me a lot - I don't know if that means anything. He says he thinks I am really funny, or to use his exact words, "You jsut have no idea how funny you are". He play fights with me all the time (I realise that makes us sound like 10 year olds, but hopefully you know what I mean) and its not like he pulls away or is uncomfortable if I touch him anywhere.

Oh and he is french and has been kinda pushing me to learn french so I can speak to him.

 

Hehe yeah, I'd say hes definantly interested...

 

Yep

 

Really?

I mean I really like this guy, but he seems quite out of my league!

He is really good looking, smart, funny - not to mention french!

And I am, well....less than average looking and quite overweight!

Thats, I guess, why I am a little confused by his actions!

But also, if I am having a party, or a few friends over or whatever and I invite him, he almost always says no??

 

Well as far as whether or not hes in your league, all people are different, thinking in terms of too good or not good enough and such is really rather pointless you know? It's all dependant upon the individual... As far as saying no... Well I don't know... You should probably just approach him about it, and find out...

 

Tell your fear to take a hike and go for it. You'll never know unless you try, and it's better to find out than to live with "what if's".

Good luck, and much love...

 

yeah it sounds like he's definitley interested. You usually can tell if they pull your hair or play fight with you. To be honest though I wouldn't make the first move-sure invite him over if you are having other people over but it is his job to express his feelings for you-make him work for you he'll treat you better when you land him-easier said than done though

 

Just curious... Why?

 

Lol whoa.... i have the same problem, but with women, im terrible at picking up signals. I'll have friends with me, and a girl will be flirting with me or hitting on me, and my friends will be like " that girl was really feeling you", and i'll be like "no way" and then i feel all stupid becuase i didnt pick up on it, no wonder im single all the time, cant tell if someone likes me or not, everyone else can cept for me

 

To me I dont kno if its the same for guys but I think if a girl is into you there is something about their smile and almost a glimmer in their eyes maybe someone else knows what I mean

 

Yeah there are always subtle hints... Just a matter of figuring them out... Hehe thats the most fun!

 

If his pants are taking on the appearance of a circus tent, then there's a good chance he's interested.

 

One time in my entire life did I ever come on to a guy first and he was completley rude when we went out and made no effort to make me feel special. Once I am 100 percent sure someone is into me I am pretty easy going I still won't call them unless I am returning their call unless we are in a relationship. I have just had more luck not making the first move but sometimes I am stupid and let my heart get the best of me and am always so fearful that I am going to regret it.

 

Just because one guy was like that doesn't mean they all are...

 

no I know they bitch because you never call them or are unavalible too much and than when you clear time for them or make them a priority they completley change. I absolutley refuse to play stupid little games like that the next time I'm in a relationship.

 

Hmm...maybe I would be better off staying single and in the dark.....

 

I'm just saying it can go either way...