So, I'm not sure about how to write this-- I'm not so great with words. It may get long, just as a warning. I've had this friend for about five months, and he and I got along very very well right from the beginning. Long story short he said he didn't want to go out with me when I originally asked him out because he wanted to get to know me better. Then he went out with a girl I've known for eight years... Then one of the times I slept over his house we ended up having sex and things got very out of wack. Safe to say he broke up with his girlfriend and asked me out sixteen days after our "fun". I love him dearly, and I can talk about things with him that I never thought I would discuss with anyone. My only problem is that he's taken a lot away from me (weed, cigarettes, SI, my friends, my attitude), and then flipped out when I admitted that I smoked! Like, freaked out as in having a mental spaz and fligging me to the floor. It scared the crap out of me, and he promised it wouldn't happen again. We made a compromise and he said he'd go to NoHo (the local gay/lesbian/hippy-esque shopping district) with me this weekend and buy me a vegan cookie (nothing wins me over like cookies! :]) I was really excited about it and couldn't wait to go. Then he went and got himself grounded and now his mom won't let him to anything with me, and I haven't seen him in two days and it's just ridiculous. What do you all think about this, do you think we have any chance of lasting with his attitude? I don't even know what I'm asking... I'm just really upset right now.
this might sound harsh, but fuck him if he won't let you be yourself then scares the shit out of you when you do. in my opinion, just break it off, because its not worth it to be with someone who wants to shape you into something they want you to be and won't let you have any independence to be who you are.
