My Friend won't try Marijuana - please help

Well I have a friend who i've known since junior high (we're both 26 now) and he is down on himself all the time. He has no job, doesn't go to school, plays video games all day and is generally a jerk to the other people in his house.

Thing is, back when I met him he was a brilliant guy, he was in the GATE program with me (gifted and talented education) kept up on politics and current event and made all kinds of clever jokes. He's still a brilliant guy but his lifestyle leads him to think that he's less than everyone else. He's always dropping things into conversation like "i'm kind of a screw up" but he also has a big head about things "some people aren't intelligent enough to get that" etc.

I think what he really needs is some ego loss and maybe the healing herb to help him see the error of his ways. I reccomended it to him and he started spewing all the same old stuff we've heard before like it causes cancer, it takes away your motivation etc. And he thinks it causes people around you to get high by "contact high."

I tried to explain to him that he's wrong, and I have a new epiphany every time I smoke it and he was like "peanut butter on grilled cheese is not an epiphany" and I was all, it's not like that, you have no idea what it's like to be high do you? and he said something to the effect of "You're just defending it because it makes you feel good stop listening to all that hippy garbage"

This went on for awhile and finally he said "I'm already a bum and you want me to be a pothead too?"

Anyway. He won't talk to me now. He thinks I'm a loser stoner, even though I have a job and go to school and have my own apartment, and he sits on his mom's couch. We've had arguments before and we were friends again the next day. I've known this guy for 13 years and I don't want to lose a friend but it's hard.

Maybe I just need to move on. But I know that marijuana would help him see his life for what it really is, and inspire him to make a change. Any advice?

 

It's his choice

 

He doesnt sound like a very nice guy...

 

..yup

 

weed rape him!

 

Ok well it's not just about the marijuana, i'm not gonna force it on him... it's also about my friend... should I try to keep this dude as a friend and just not talk about smoking or ditch him, I mean i'd hate to think that marijuana caused me to lose a friend, that just makes me feel like a druggy.

 

he was once... I wish he would come back.

 

you definitely can't force him, but at the same time, are you indicative of a 'pothead?' if you have your job, apartment, etc and he has deadly laziness who is acting like a pothead? even without pot hes done it. the deadly sin of Sloth it actually 2 sins, empathy (woe is me, definably 'emo') and melancholy (has been linked to a misdiagnosis of depression. ) maybe he has mental issues he should get checked out.

 

I agree but how do you convince someone like that to go to a doc. +he has no money to go anyway. I really think pot would help him if he let it. He wants to succeed but just won't get out of his house and go do it

 

I strongly disagree.
My opinion is that pot will only enhance his apathetic attitude.

 

haha

 

don't tell him how drugs help you

show him, in your own life, in an honest way.

let him think "hmm, marijuana seems to have helped her problems . . . interesting"

they have to make the decision in the end, so let them build up their repetoire of data upon the subject

 

it sounds like the last thing he needs is to become a pothead.
(not saying it hasn't helped some people!)

it is his choice anyways btw.

 

yeah i mean you dont know what kinda person he is high...so he might become one and move on to more drugs. it happened to my friend, he asked him if he got high before and the guy lied to him and said yeah

well now hes a crack head lol Im not laughin at that, but my friend blames himself for it

 

This is all good advice I guess I shouldn't mention it to him anymore. Im just wondering if i'll even hear from him again. Feel like I lost a friend, it sucks.

 

You are not losing him due to weed, it is due to HIM.

 

it's his choice. i think herb is good and lets you reflect on lifea s well, but its not all about weed. maybe he is depressed and shit, help him get a doctor appt. man, check for depression, or you know help him get a job or something.

but then again, some people wont even try. i dont know man.

 

It's a personal choce. If he does not want to smoke you don't make him. Now if you want to slip him a special brownie....... Really, I would not worry about it just talk to him about every once in a while and maybe one day he will say, ok i'll try it. Just don't push him because then he will just walk away.

 

Respect someones decision not to smoke.
Just like you would want someones respect for you TO smoke.

 

screw that patronising waste man, tell that bum to get a job and sort his life out. get off xbl or psn