my roommate's girlfriend has been in the room (dorm room) almost everday since the beginning of the semester (started maybe 3 weeks ago) and sometimes she seems really flirty with me. i would join the conversation when they were around and she always thought that what i said was really funny sometimes my roommate is a complete asshole to her, possibly because he's reading a book to improve his "game" and it says to be an asshole to her and then be nice to her, so he'll be nice to her at the end of the day (in bed) (by they way, does that work?). when he's a jerk to her she says things like "greggy (my name's greg) will you sleep with me?" she said this more than once. one time my roommate said "no, i will not hold your hand" even though she wasn't trying to, he was kidding, and she said "greg will you hold my hand?" another time she asked me if i was going to be around the rest of the night (it was 11pm and i was out for a few hours so they could fuck) and i said yeah and she said good and smiled. that night she gave him head, like she does every night, but it was louder than the other times. the other times i couldn't hear it but this time i could. we've seemed to make some sort of relationship. one day i wasn't feeling all that well and i didn't really say much when they came into the room but they were only there for like 10 minutes and i said hi and bye. she texts me like 5 minutes after they leave cause he went to class and she went to her car to go to work. she asks me if i was feeling ok and i said yeah i'm fine. later that night, 4 hours later, she texts me asking if i'm feeling better yet. the conversation went on for the rest of the night untill she went to bed, so for about 5 hours. we talk to eachother when my roommate's not around. she always seems interested in talking to me. i think that we can relate to eachother easier because we both smoke pot, me more than her but she's done coke more than a few times. my roommate's very straight edge and is making her quit cigs which she hasn't even though he thinks so. so to my question. should i try to make something more out of this? i'm not sure if she's just trying to be friends with her boyfriend's roommate or not. before i met her he said that she's a very sweet girl so i'm not sure if she's just being a sweet girl. i usually don't know what to say when she says things like "greggy will you sleep with me tonight" so i just say nothing. what should i say? i want to say something flirty but not too flirty. when/if they break up what should i do? i was thinking i'd just start talking to her on facebook or something and try hanging out with her. sorry if this seems obvious and pointless to ask but i'm high and was thinking about it.
...yeah, off limits dude. i know i sure as hell would get pissed if my roommate started comin on to my girlfriend.
It's not worth it, don't try anything. And guys who try to get with their friend's gf's are douchebags.
naw, i'm not gunna try to get with her while they're still dating. actually my roommate doesn't seem to be that into the relationship. he even said himself "yeah, dude, go ahead and date her"
If she's coming on to you when supposedly in an exclusive relationship she probably should be kept in the "friend" zone (if anything at all) because if she's willing to to cheat with you she'll be willing to cheat on you. Save yourself the aggravation and look for a better catch..
she doesn't seem like the kind of girl to cheat on her boyfriend. all i want to do is keep talking to her and hang out with her after they break up. i wouldn't want to start dating her right away or anythign either, i'd rather hang out and talk with her and see where it goes from there. if it becomes a relationship then it was meant to be and if not then it wasn't
I can't argue with that. You have to make the decision that works for you and your posts seem to indicate that you have your shit together enough that you'll make the right decision regardless of any responses here. You'd be wise to keep things low key as long as you have the same roommate-- wait until the semester is over at least to make any real moves. I say this not knowing the current boyfriend- you probably have a better handle of his state of mind and whether he could turn and become a pain in your ass because you're acquainting yourself with an ex of his.
If it did work to be an ass to her, would you feel good about yourself for treating her like crap? Or would you want to date someone that demands respect and be the better man that gives it?
yeah, i suppose. i didn't think i would be able to anyways cause i'm just nice by nature. i'm not gunna try an be something i'm not
This is hard, he's your ROOMATE. That's worse than a housemate, who shares the same kitchen with you. Trust me, stay off. Even if he dumps her he'd be pissed if you started fucking her in your room. LOL, this is why I never had a roommate, sharing a room with another guy, so many problems.
how good of a friend is you're room mate? If he's some asshole you go stuck with in a college dorm then fuck him, I say try n hit it. But at the same time I lost a really good friend/dealer over this exact same situation. She was still with him but chilled with me ALOT! To the point where i was calling her to hang out and smoke. I ended up dating her for about 2 months before he found out about it, all in all it wasn't worth loosing the friendship over a piece of ass
i didn't know him before we were roommates, we were just randomly matched. he's cool though and i don't wanna piss him off while we're still roommates but i'll prolly never see him again after this semester. i'm gunna tap that shit after they break up
so this weekend was a four day weekend and i went home and so did my roommate. yesterday (v-day) i sent an IM to my roommate saying "party tonight?" and he said "in my pants ur invited" i said "doesn't sound like much of a party lol" and then he said (well from his name) "hey, it's (his gf) there's a party in my pants" and she puts a winky face after it this morning she texts me saying "miss me? haha" i feel like i shouldn't be flirting with her because her bf is my roommate but i want to flirt with her, i want to be able to say things like "yeah, do you miss me?" or "am i invited to the party in your pants" lol do you guys think i should just keep it low profile and not flirt with her? i don't want to make it seem like i don't like her that way, cuase i do but i also don't want to cross a line even though she's already crossed it i really wanna text her or something and start talking to her, but i don't even know what i would say
Your instinct to not make any moves while she and your roommate are still dating are right on the mark. Keep the low profile- maintain a civil distance with her- not necessarily cutting her off but not acting on her advances either... at least not until she has ended things with the b/f... and you'd be well advised to keep things away from your roommate lest problems be ignited between you two. Ideally you should keep away until the end of the semester but I know sometimes it just isn't realistic.
Waahhhh flirting with other guys when she’s got a b/f ??! naughty* Are you sure you want this kind of complication in your life ?
