My boyfriend and I have been together for about a year and a half now... and though we love each other very much, our sex life has dwindled. He used to not be able to keep his hands off me, and now I'm lucky if we have sex once a week. I try initiating stuff, but he's just never interested. I don't know if he's not attracted to me anymore or what. Maybe it's just because we've been together for so long, he's bored with me sexually. I don't know what to do. I'm 20 and he's 26. Granted, I'm a bit of a nymphomaniac... I don't think wanting it 2 or 3 times a week is asking much. Anyone been in this situation before?
try something new, if you guys are comfortable with talking about your sex lives i think doing new stuff would be good. my ex and i were together for two and a half years and doing the same thing gets boring and i said to him let's have fun and do crazy (not literally CRAZY or super freaky) things and that helped a lot
nah i don't mind. different positions or places. instead of always being missianary or on top there's different ways you can move your body to get more pleasure and you can have more fun with it. check out the kama sutra, i know there's some crazy stuff in there but there are some things you might dig. i remember one time, we went to the woods at like 2 in the morning and got some food and looked at the stars, then we turned the doors on and i was just being silly dancing around and we had sex out in the woods. it's not the first time we did it in the woods, but jim morrison is one of my aphrodisiacs. another time we had a big dinner at my house and my family got all this whipped cream and chocolate syrup and we messed around on each others bodies with it, it was very fun and it made us trust each other more sexually
Oh yeah, the lizard king turns me on too. We had sex in my backyard once, and it was definitely the best we've ever had. It was very spiritual. My main problem is just initiating it these days.
a twenty year old girl cant get her boyfriend to bang her enough..i dont mean to be disrespectful but i need more info what are yours and his stats...height weight etc..cause sometimes guys have been known to gather a collection of less than fit women so that they can enjoy sex with many different ladies .if he is doing that than he is probably tired and you should just be happy that you are still in the rotation..or dump the asshole and find a canadian dude
him and jimi are very very great to have sex to. you should definatly try listening to them. the doors is a turn on and jimi hendrix sounds like he is having sex to his musik it's just great.
Sex should not be the center point of a relationship. Maybe you went to the well too often. LOL. Just try some new things.
I had this problem too. I had a girlfriend of almost 5 years who lost interest. Turns out she's gay. Then I had another one right after who started doing the same thing. I broke up with her before I found out what the reason was because honestly I didn't want to know. Some of us just have bad luck, I suppose. At this point I'm a little frightened of finding someone else, frankly. It messed with my head so bad that I'd really rather just stay single... at least for a while.
relationships go through waves too, of more sex and less sex. depends on what else is going on. ie, if theres a lot of other stress in his life, of course his libido will be low (thats how it works for most people... a few do get hornier when stressed though). id try talking to hima bout it, see if he knows why you guys dont do it as often as you used to, discuss things you both might improve upon, etc. you can also take initiative of course, shouldnt rely on him to be the instigator all the time
I agree with raz, you have to try new things in the bedroom to keep it interesting you know how we men are. A position I personally like is doggie style of course but have him hold your wrist while you do it to give him more control and it makes it a bit more kinky. You could also try surprising him with a morning bj (wake him up with it) and get things started from there, I know I like surprises like that. Maybe look at some porn or read a few dirty mags to get some ideas, just think outside the box and you're sure to get some positive results.
Long term relationships have their ups and downs. I have been married for 25 years and during that time we have went through periods where we would fuck twice day and it still wasn't enough, then at other times, we would go months without touching each other. Mostly, its somewhere in between those two places. Its just a dry spell, don't worry about it.
That's not asking much at all really, shit I like it once a day if I can get it, but anymore I have to just masturbate, get it, get out get done and get satisfied.
christ, how many times have I been in this situation. In my experience sex is always the easiest part of the relationship and when that starts to go it's a sign of something else.
