girls conlfuse me sometimes

i used to hang out with this girl and when we did everything was great... then after she got a boyfriend ... cause i really wanted to go out with her at the time... well after she got her boyfriend she became a real bitch to me for no reason... i gave her a few chances and then just stoped hanging out with her cause of the way she continued to treat me... well she ims me the other night saying that she really misses me and wants to hang out with me again.. and said she was sorry for being a bitch when i was nothing but nice to her... im confused on what to do... do i hang out with her again or just just say fuck you... part of me still misses her but part of me doesnt want to put up with the bitchyness again... help me please

thanks

 

I wouldnt...whose to say she wouldnt do that again...
did she say why she did that to you? or anything...

 

I would talk with her first. Tell her that you feel this way and see what she says. She could be really sorry. Maybe there is a good reason (probably not it's a shitty thing to do but you never know). I'm always for giving people a second chance but don't let her walk all over you again. I beleive that your relationship with her seems important enough for you to give it a shot, but make sure you are treated with the respect and dignity you deserve.

 

by the way.. I'm from Jamestown, NY!!

 

meh, I still say don't cause it sounds like she likes to play games or something..and personally, I wouldnt waste my time if someone treated me like shit real bad for no reason..

 

maybe she was mad you didnt ask her out before the other guy did.

 

what? if she liked him, she could have asked him out, ya know..

 

Unfortunately, girls are only good for 2 things: dick sucking and sandwich making. Hanging out with girls just doesn't flow well, unless they are serving you.

 

hahah..what if you cant make a sandwich, should they just send you to an island somewhere

 

I agree with you! give her a second chance, everyone deserves a second chance!

 

Or maybe a sandwich making re-education camp of some sort...

 

Not everyone derserves second chances..why if someone was shitty to you when they had a boyfriend and then they dont and now they are nice..nope, sounds like a game to me..

 

wow, hahaha that is great

 

Just shut-up and make me a fucking sandwich!

 

hahah can i just slap some manwich on some bread for ya

 

Maybe her boyfriend was uncomfortable with the two of you being chummy, so she, in turn, started acting badly towards you, but now she regrets her actions.

Hear her out at least. Tell her how she made you feel and see what she has to say.

Good luck...

 

yes, definitely talk to her before you make a decision either way.

it wouldn't be fair to let her back into (or completely cut her out of) your life without talking about things first.

obviously, there's a lot more to your friendship than what you were able to fit and summerize in your post, so i hope you don't take offense to any of these hypothetical situations or assumptions or whatever.

was she like this with all of her friends, or just with you? did any of your mutual friends try and talk to her while her behavior was going on?

perhaps she sensed that, "you really wanted to go out with her at the time," and she just wanted to remain friends? maybe she felt like that imposed upon her new relationship, and her bitchiness was some twisted defensive action?

did you talk to her about her bitchy behavior when it started? you said you gave her a few chances, and then stopped hanging out with her... but did you tell her why? does she know the full extent of how her behavior hurt you?

maybe it was her new boyfriend... i recently lost a real close friend after she started dating a new guy. back in the spring she started dating this guy who got her (extremely) addicted to coke, and she dropped off of the earth for a few months. do you think it could be anything like that? maybe she didn't get addicted to anything, but the guy still could have had a harsh influence on her behavior. maybe he was mentally abusive, and tried to get her to cut off any relationships with her male friends?

is she still with her boyfriend? make sure that she won't revert back to her old behavior. people don't change without a reason, and it'll probably help if you find out what her reasoning was. and don't accept, "i don't know," as a response... it's a horrible, thoughtless excuse for her to give you.

but anyway, reguardless, i think it would be best to talk to her. make sure you completely understand her motivation/s. it sounds like she really hurt you.. let her know how the severity of her actions and how they affected you. if it'll take a long time for you to trust her again, let her know. i hope that once you talk to her everything will become a lot clearer. no matter what you decide to do, i hope the pain she caused you is lessened by your decision. good luck!

 

She sounds rubbish, but then again, I'm biased.

 

mysical shroom.. ive seen a lot of girls in my life reverting to stereotypical roles lately. actually it seems like every girl i meet nowadays is pure stereotype. so thats where that last comment came from. And like someone once told me, anger is a secondary emotion - you act angry because of something that happened, right? Unless you're just a coldhearted manipulating bitch, which is always possible.

 

my friend...girls are a mystery