Hey guys, I was into this girl last year(2008) June. I really liked her and thought of asking her out. She usually used to hang out at my place and sometimes sleep over but we never did anything. But one night I wanted to just kiss her. So I made the move, at first she was like no you cannot kiss me, but then after 5 minutes I went for her lips and she did not push me. We held each other and kissed. I managed to go to second base(she has an amazing pair). After this I started thinking she is into me. But then I found out she was actually into some other guy I totally hate. Not because she likes him but he really is an ass. I did not like him way before I started liking her. After a month, I was at her place and it was at 2 in the night. I was getting ready to leave and she said "Why are you going?". We made out and went to the third base. This event happened after I knew she was into some other guy and she also knew that I knew about it. The next day, she was with her friend. I went over to their place and we were all talking normally. Then her other friend, lets call her Y, said to me " You are so cute I could put you in my pocket. You are like so TINY". Y's face went red. What she meant to say that is that I am tiny and she could put me in her pocket. But what she was thinking was my penis was small. The girl who I liked said to Y " I know what you are thinking about now". They giggled. I got the fuck out of there after 2 minutes saying I got to do some laundry. I was depressed and still am. She ended up going out with that other guy. Now I know I have a small penis. She has a fact. But I honestly did not want her to tell some other girl that I have a small penis. It is affecting my friendship with everyone. Y deleted me from Facebook. We never did talk much but still there is a chance she deleted me because I have a small penis. I stopped talking to her because I wanted to get over her. She said sorry for breaking my heart. She sent me an email on New Year's eve saying she is really sorry for what she has done and that she was rude to me. BUT SHE DOESNT KNOW THAT I KNOW SHE IS MAKING FUN OF ME. SHE THINKS I AM STUPID. I got back being friends with her. But then again I had some similar incident*(see down for complete explanation) with her another girlfriend where I felt that she might have told her too. Now if she keeps telling everyone. I am fucked. I don't want her to destroy my friendship with everyone. I want to confront her and ask her why she has been telling everyone about it. How do I do it? Or should I do it? The reason why I am asking you guys is because there is this other girl who is becoming really close to me. She already has a boyfriend but I really like talking to her because she is so much fun. I am worried that the girl I liked will tell her about this. How should I handle this whole thing? I know this must be irritating for you guys to read. But it's burning a hole in my heart and I am depressed as ever. Any input will be greatly appreciated. *Me, the girl I liked and another girl were talking. The girl I like was making fun of me that I am always naked in my room. Thing is I am always in my shorts. The other girl is like "oh my god, why are you always naked?". It was all in good fun UNTIL the other girl says "All she is trying to say is that you are tiny." I immediately saw her(the girl who I liked)reaction. She made that "WHY-DID-YOU-MENTION-THAT-INFRONT-OF-HIM-IT-WAS-MEANT-TO-BE-A-SECRET" face. GOD ONLY KNOWS HOW MANY PEOPLE SHE MUST HAVE TOLD.
The girl you say that has a nice pair, has a not-so-nice-personality! God, I hate girl’s that are so damn shallow. Stop communicating with her, stop meeting up with her. Forget about the rumors – let them die. You start poking at it and it will only encourage more rumors. She’s bad news, get new friends. Network a different crowd of people who are worth your time. I don’t know how old you are – but you sound young. I know when I was younger (teens) I had a circle of friends – most often they are the only people you fit in with, but if this group begins to turn on you – don’t be some helpless victim and let them walk all over you. Take charge (and I don’t mean go hurt them) but obliviously relations in that group of friends will never be the same – so seek friendship, love interest else where. Psychology studies have shown that people that say things to make you feel bad – are people who really feel bad about themselves - they feel inadequate. So they say and do things to draw attention away from themselves. Putting someone down can be done in many forms, like: bullying, teasing, non-constructive criticism etc etc… you get the point. So remember every time someone says something that puts you down, its not you – its their own insecurities that are surfacing. Stay away from these negative people. They can not enrich your life – only take from it. Genuine girls will like you for you. Seek out girls that want to be with you – why would you want to be with someone who doesn’t want to be with you ? be patient and we’ll find someone that will suit you. That email she sent was not cool either. Notice her language… “She sent me an email on New Year's eve saying she is really sorry for what she has done and that she was rude to me. BUT SHE DOESNT KNOW THAT I KNOW SHE IS MAKING FUN OF ME. SHE THINKS I AM STUPID.” Like wtf ? that’s the most appalling apology everrrrrrr ! first she says she’s sorry and the next part was like a slap in the face ! She the kind of girl that like to mess with your head, it gives her a power trip. She says jump – and you jump right ? do you like being her B*%&H ? not to be rude or anything, but do you see what I'm getting at here ? it seems she got this control over you. Put your foot down and stand your ground. Girls find assertive confident males to be incredibly attractive – and weak males a real turn off. And with your new found of male assertiveness, make your own path – be an individual and find people what aspire you to be a better human being, a better man - rather then trying to bring you down to their shallow level. I wish you well...
