is Anyone else having this issue

whenever i seem to have an issue with the way my parents treat me, even if its just a little thing, they always come down so hard. They let me know how much they give me and how much i have because of them and how ungrateful i am because I either try to stand up for myself or have some kind of issue with the way im treated. i KNOW that im lucky to have what i have and that my parents are pretty chill people. But its like they dont know that im grateful at all! They think im ungrateful and cruel and I feel like maybe i just shouldnt voice what i think anymore. It just turns into a huge fight that goes too far. I think i would rather just deal with they way they are instead of creating voids between us. I dont feel like i would voice the issue if it was just that, an issue. I dont think im being unreasonable when i tell them there are some things (such as the way they treat me around my friends) that bother me that they do, its like ive crossed a line and i should NEVER be upset with how im treated and "How Could I be so ungrateful" I love my parents and there are way more good things about them than bad and I KNOW that. But i feel like they dont know that i know that. They just believe that im being a dumb kid just acting out because Im not getting what i want. When really its not what they wont give me that im upset about, its just the way they react when i ask.

Im trying really hard to see it from both sides. I understand that there are misinterpretations and they take things the wrong way sometimes but once they have, there is no going back. there is no explaining myself and I just end up feeling like shit because i dont want my parents to think im a spoiled douche bag.

im just really at a loss as to what to do. Anyone have any suggestions