Seeing other guy with the girl I like

I have a friend that I like a girl ofcouse. My problem is that she already has a boy friend. What I can figer out is that they are living together. She is a very kind hearted and cute girl. Very pretty. I have spent a few eveings helping her at a store she works at. We striped the floors and rewaxed them. It look just about all night to do them.

But we are not done with the floor. after that I think I need to try and stay away from her cuz I feel as if am falling for her and it I stay around her I may get my feels hurt. Ive been hurt very hadly in the passed and I cant take that any more.

Her boy friend came to the store today to help and I felt so bad that he has her and not me.

Have any of you guys ever felt like that?

What would you do if you where in my shoes?

Thanks

 

Yes I have felt like that before. What I would do - which is what I sometimes wish I had done before in my situation - is keep my distance from them. Not that I would stop being friends, just not hang out too much with her.

 

Yea man, there's not much you can do at this point. If a girl's taken she's taken. If you're like me (the falling hard type) then keep your distance from her. It'll eat you up seeing her with someone else all the time.

 

One thing I need to add to my post.
Is that we both work in the same building I work for the mall and she is the manger of a GNC store and I go passed the store 2 or 3 times a day depending on what I need to do.
There is no other way to get to where I need to go on that end of the builting.
also becouse of me doing her store floors I helped her get the mangers job. she is very happy becouse of it.

I also have a problem of what to tell her if she ask me why am I not comming around much any more. I dont want her the feel like am shunning her. She didnt do anything wrong in anyway. I cant even tell her how I feel couse it would not be right.

I saw her for a few mins tonight and I felt like crying. I know guys are not possosed to cry but it does happen. but not in front of others. I am hurting.

Thank you for your kind words.

BuddyLov

 

Dudes can cry, it's just some stupid, antiquated social construct that tells us they (we) can't.

I'm in a slightly similar situation, but my feelings probably aren't as intense as what you're describing. I started playing music with a really great girl and another guy. She has a boyfriend - both myself and the other guy in the group have a crush on her. Anyway, I know the likelihood of her leaving the boyfriend and choosing me is pretty remote. In the meantime, I think I can just be her friend and hope for the best.

I suppose if your girl asks you why you don't come around, there's nothing wrong with saying that you like her but know that she has a boyfriend and didn't want to embarrass yourself or something like that. Who knows? Something might even come of that conversation. If not, see if there are any hot girls working further down in Borders or Target...

 

Hi Buddy,
that's a tough situation.. well if I were in your situation, I'd go out with my friends often.. so I'll have reasons not to be around anymore.. and go date others, make yourself available. Find one yourself, and you'll probably forget about her.