Oh god....

Ughhh. Friday, I met this guy I knew about but actually hadn't seen. He is one of my friend's boyfriend. He is really hot, in my opinion, and seems like someone I'd like to get to know.

Anyway, when he first met me, we hugged (I'm not very big on public male contact, so I was like "Huh?"). When I looked like that, he said, "I'm not gay, don't worry."

But when I eased back into my personal bubble, he said "Well, not completely." But he was smiling, as if he were joking or flirting.

Later on, when we were walking around the area with our friends, he briefly put his arm around me.

Honestly, I was so mentally disabled that second that I can't remember if it was my shoulder or waist, but I think it was my waist.

Then, a bit later....something happened. Not to just Brandon and me, but to the whole group. I think it brought us closer together, and, afterward, I started to compile facts in my head.

1) He said he was bi--he may have been joking, but he still said it.

2) He put his arm around me--like I said, I can't completely remeber where.

3) He always seemed to like me whenever he talked to me; we got along very easily.

4) We were already fooling around by the time I'd known him for an hour. I was already calling him names, and he would just laugh. We were both joking, but he didn't seem to mind.

5) He was--I guess you would call it prancing--around the entire area. Things just seemed to flow with us.

I don't know what to do-- ask him about it and possibly develop a relationship or just let it be. When he hugged me, I felt secure. Safe.

I haven't felt that way in my entire life. I loved it, even if it only lasted for maybe two or three seconds.

What do you all think? As far as I know, he could have been playing around. Obviously, he likes girls, or he wouldn't be with Jesse. But, if he likes guys, I might have a shot if he liked me that much. I don't know what to do.....

 

when I was in high school, I had a fake girlfriend for 1 1/2 years, all we really did was hold hands, It was great cover.

Sometimes in high school the girls also pick "boyfriends" who they know arent going to try jump their bones

 

If he's already spoken for then don't do anything.

 

Nice friend Jesse's got.

 

Yes, but they kiss publicly. Of course, I find it hard not to stare at him. Many reasons for that, of course.

VERY nice friend.

And, another problem is that I like both of them..........

So now you see the reason for the thread's title...

I constantly flirt with Jesse, even if it is inadvertantly. That's just the way I am: I see a girl I like, I constantly joke around and I'm very protective. I see a guy I like, and I automatically treat him like a best friend, and Brandon seemed very friendly, so who knows? Maybe he really is bi? Maybe he wasn't joking, and really was flirting?

Well, it doesn't matter too much now, and it won't for at least two months or until I get something to flatten my hair down; I tried to give myself a haircut the other day...and forgot that I should never be trusted with scissors. Now, my hair is half an inch shorter than I want it, my eyebrows are showing --I hate that because I notice more flaws on my face--and the only way it looks good is if I have something on top of it, but I can't walk around all day with my hand on my hair--I'll look stupid.

So, now I need to fix it, and contemplate the situation. Do I ask Brandon about this? Do I ask him out (after I've fixed my hair, of course)? Do I ask Jesse out? Both? Is that possible--to date both without them knowing? If they do know, will they be cool with it?


Ughhhhhhhhh I can't concentrate, knowing this...thing is in place of my once-normal hairstyle.

 

This

And this

 

I wish I could! Do you know how many times I've thought about seeing his chest again???

I sigh contentedly at that thought and then I shudder at the thought of just letting this all go....

 

You must be very young. . .

 

Dude, I was being sarcastic. You're considering the possibility of hitting on your friend's boyfriend (who seems to be into cheating on her). Yeah, you seem both true gems. -_-'

 

I'm not actually planning on asking him out while he's still dating Jesse; I plan to sit by and watch, then confront him about what he said, and see how it goes from there.

Sorry I didn't catch your sarcasm. I was a bit mesmerized. But, at least I caught it that time....

Besides, things are a bit rocky with them anyway. Jesse was pretty pissed at him last Friday. I don't want to say why; that's not anyone's business that neither Jesse nor Brandon want it to be.

Besides, even if he is willing to cheat on Jesse--and, possibly, me-- Jesse once told me that Brandon has a way of making all your anger melt away. I didn't quite believe her, but now I see that she was right. I highly doubt that I could stay more than a little mad at him for any reason.

Yes, I'm only 15. That's why I need so much help-- I have almost no experience when it comes to guys, and only a little bit of experience when it comes to girls.

 

Yeah, you really are young

 

You know its not that simple, if this dude is bi or gay, probably best this Jesse girl finds out sooner rather than later

 

Now now, let's be fair: they pick them because they're Just Not Ready, and at that age they aren't aware that men aged, like, 13-99 are never Just Not Ready.

 

This, however, is reprehensible. If you're going to do something bad for a selfish reason, don't make up ways for it to be okay. Just do it and live with the guilt, or don't and don't. It's really really messed up to assume that bi men are somehow "trapped" in any relationship that they might end up in.

 

so true.

 

So true it's so true. :cheers2:

 

He might be; I still have no idea. He said he was, and that's usually not something you joke about, lest rumors begin. But, he was grinning when he said it, so he may have been joking, or perhaps informing me that he has an open mind.

Or maybe he was just teasing me.

 

Did that come of sounding nasty, didnt mean to.

Just not ready you say? I think you might have a different view on that in another ten years or so. Its not so much that they arent interested in sex, just that they arent interested in boys.

Girl that hits legal age and is only interested sexually in men, by men I mean over 25, over 6ft usually has the same m.o. as gay guy that hits legal age and is only interested in men. The fake innocence, the plutonic boyfriend the same age so they fit in with their peers, whilst all along secretly hooking up with a guy 10+ years older - which often has to be kept secret so everyone else doesnt get bitchy.

16/17 year old girl that has a hot dad knows full well she has to keep some of her female friends away from her dad, 16/17 guy hears that and is like "huh, what huh? ewww".

But thats not the majority, most girls arent ready till past 19, Legal age till 19 most are terrified of getting pregnant. Add to that something that all us guys dont get when we are younger - just how scary it can be for them living in a world where half the population is bigger than you


Back to BigAl: Dude, take the moral highgrounders advice with a pinch of salt, you shouldnt do anything cos he's already taken?, some people say that kind of shit cos they believe it, some people just say that kind of stuff to go along with everyone else, some people say that kind of stuff in front of the significant other to hide their secret stuff, some people say that kind of stuff cos they are in denial about their significant other. Only you know this Brandon and Jesse, only you know if Jesse is going to get crushed, or if she's going to move on to the next guy within a week or if she already knows that about Brandon and doesnt really give a darn. Not all girls are the same, just like all guys arent the same. Older people like to pretend they are experts on this, but they are just as clueless as when they were 15, Its always a continual struggle between the green-eyed monster (jealousy), true love and what one's "ranking" is

 

That's true. Like I said, I don't want to go after Brandon until I'm positive that he and Jesse are broken up, and I'm pretty sure that she'll be crushed. She was crushed two Fridays ago too. They didn't break up or anything, but she still wasn't too pleased.

 

Well, there you go, if you know she's a fragile thing thats going to get crushed, wait...and I'm guessing at 15 it might be her first big love, so yeah, you don't want to be that dude