my girlfriend is worried that anal sex will never feel good and this makes her hesitent to want to do it. my question is what is the best position to make anal feel good for her
The spoons is a quite good position, too. Ah! And to have pleasure she must keep masturbating herself while you penetrate her from behind. Men may have orgasms through anal estimulation (even though it's really rare. I've never had one myself), but woman can't. One thing is simillar for both genders, though: anal estimulation makes the (regular) orgasm more intense.
I've found the basic Missionary Position the simplest for Straight Anal sex - usually as a direct follow on from Vaginal sex, so the penis is still wet & well lubricated from the natural vaginal lubricants, plus additional lubricants sometimes get to run down from the vagina to the anus as well to help ease the way. I've also found it far easier to penetrate a female's anus than it is to penetrate a male's. I've never found if this is due to some sort of anatomical difference or what, but the female anus does seem to be further forward than the male, and therefore easier accessible from the front than with the male.
I have found that Missionary Position, well not really woman on top..is also a good enjoyful way. In this way you have access to kissing her, licking her ear, neck...
If she's worried about pain, let her be on top and let her control the speed and depth of penetration. I agree with nateman get a nice small beginner butt plug. I recommend the little flirt by tantus. It's small, thin, and soft with a nice flared out base. It also doesn't have any sharp curves like some butt plugs. It's made from premium silicone: hypoallergenic, boilable, non-porous, and phthalate free. I recommend you warm her up with some analingus and then maybe a finger or two, then lube up the butt plug and gently slid it in, or let her slide it in. Remember and use a water based lubricant for the plug as silicone can damage the plug. Then have regular vag sex with the butt plug in. This will get her nice and excited, while the butt plug stimulates and dilates her ass. And when she is ready, let her control the penetration. And when she's nice and hot, pound her ass like there is no tomorrow, and have her rub her clit. I didn't have to do all this stuff with my girl, she was built to take it in the ass. I just lubed my dick and her as and eased it in her ass, smooth as butter. And when she was relaxed, I pounded the shit out of her ass, and she loved it.
i'd suggest doggy. lube up and go 1 finger, 2 fingers, 3 fingers and then go for it... in my experience the fingers and initial insertion is fine but the real fun is after the adjustment. get all the way in and make fast, shallow strokes... let her work on herself while you manage the back. awesome.
For a pain-free experience, she needs to start with a small dildo, then work her way up to a full-sized one, before your dick goes in there. There is no such thing as too much lube. And you should start out with the missionary position. I like getting it from behind so the guy can pull my hair, but that isn't something that she should try too soon. Karen
We've been training for a few months now, our target is some special Bday sex for me this year! Ive been with her the whole way, as we trained up from small to midsize to now, pretty much regulation sized toys. Also, Id like to say that you inspired me yesterday with this post! Last night while giving the wife a nice slow fuck from behind, I decided to grab some hair and pull a bit right as I thrusted into her hard, and started going to town on it with her head pulled back, and a HUGE smile on her face. We both came hard after a little bit of that treatment. I still cant believe some of the crazy submissive shit she likes, she is so forceful and dominant in RL. :cheers2:
