I have been going out with my gf for about 6 weeks. We have been friends for a long time and i had a small crush on her for our entire friendship up until she did something with my friend and i gave up on her. Then one day she started to really like me in that way, and without dating or flirting or anything like that i asked her out and we jumped into an official relationship. Hooray for me right? i finally am going out with the girl ive had the a crush on for a long long time. The only problem is that im not sure if i like her in that way. Shes fine as a friend, but now that i know her a lot better, i realize that she isnt my type i think. This is my first gf btw. The only time she really shows affection for me is when we area alone in my basement. Affection as in anything more then a kiss. Another problem is that it feels kind of like im kissing my friend. I knew i would have these feelings coming in, but i made myself give it a few weeks before i made any irrational decision. Now, 6 weeks later, i am thinking to myself that i don't really like her like that except in those few moments a weeks when we are alone and making out. Though i think if any other girl were in that situation with me, i would feel the same way about them because that's the emotion kissing and rubbing brings out. As of now i have given no inclination that im thinking about breaking up with her, and im not sure what to do. I feel like there are many more opportunities for me out there, where ill have legitimate feelings for my girlfriend, and that what I want. But i don't want to hurt my current gf by breaking up with her. I don't want her to be sad or hate me, or for our friendship to be over... Im overwhelmed with thoughts... Help me please
Normally if you break up with a friend you lose them for awhile. All you can do is try to be as nice as possible when you break up with her.
And this is why I've never dated friends. If the relationship doesn't work you might end up losing both a lover and a friend.
Kinda happened to me once, but she brought it up first. I had this girl I met and crushed on for a while, and whenever she had a boyfriend she'd still act really flirtly with me and such, after she brokeup with him, I cheered her up, and she kissed me and said her minds that guy, and after about a week I realized how she's really just a friend to me, and I don't have feelings for her after knowing her even more. It's weird. But yeah, she brought it up saying she had feelings for her Ex, then I asked her if she was telling the truth, and I told her about her I don't really have the relationship feeling with her, and she spilled the truth for me.
Seriously, just sit down with her and tell her how you feel and WHAT you're feeling. If she is shy to show affection, maybe this is the main problem why your feelings have been "stunted." If it isn't ment to be, it just isn't ment to be. Don't lie to her, nor hurt yourself by staying in a relationship that you're not comfortable in. Wish you all the luck, peace bro.
