She has never had an Orgasm

I was going down on my girlfriend yesterday and fingering her (only the 2nd time ive done it to her). The first time we had done it I thought she came but apparently i was mistaken- we were drunk at the time so that's not surprising in retrospect... But after about 20 minutes i asked her if she had come close. She said she didn't know if she did or not. I asked if she had ever and she said that she doesn't know, but thinks she has at one point. I told her that she would know it if it had ever happened. Shes 17 and I'm 18 by the way. Is it normal for a 17 year old girl to of never had an orgasm? Guys do it all the time starting from a fairly young age, so I assume a girl would have at least tried it once or twice. Thoughts?

 

Ask her mom... it's genetic

 

Not uncommon at all.

Find the fabled G-spot. It is your holy grail at this point, young padawan.

 

Is there any proof that the so called G-spot touching works like just pressing a dorm bell ?

It seems to me that most peoples aproach to sex is totally wrong, come on guys you been watchin' too much porn and i think its probably true that women in pornos just don't generally have an orgams in a porn movie.

Like I have said before, i can't imagine a women having an orgasm on set, can you ?

Women need romance, gentle kissing, hugging, gentle hand caressing over their entire body for quite some time to get even close to real orgasm.

You see guys brutally thrusting or inserting their fingers like a piston into a womens vagina and some how imagining they're going to get the women off, this is totally bizarre silly, stupid and pointless if you ask me.

 

Some young women will bullshit about their orgasmic capabilities because of embarrassment. They'll drop trow and expose all their womanhood glory right to your nostrils but they'll jack you around about their own orgasms. It's strange why they do that and I've been with a few years ago that would pull that "I don't know if I did" stuff. But eventually she'd come around, no pun intended. Just keep sucking, licking and fingering and she'll reach the top of the mountain. Ask her for assistance or "directions" and above all, be patient.

Now if months go by and you still get the same negative results, that means there's a good chance the chemistry between you two is questionable. You don't want to keep that going because eventually it will work it's way into other aspects. You don't want that trouble.

 

I just thought that I would add, if I'm getting there and my fiancee starts to ask me if I did or not then it usually turns me off. When I get off you'll be able to tell, stop pestering and let me concentraite.

 

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C'mon Ben, your Southern Hemi approach sounds great, but we up north don't have all night. I'll certainly agree that you have a valid, sane approach which might work if a gal's clit is supportive of general stimulation of the genital area, including the underside of the vulva. But even women do not have infinite patience with their own bodies. You are not allowing for variety of female sexual response, which is mainly controlled by the brain. Sarahei is right on, once the brain is involved in sex, it is not good at processing much else. It is a wonderful organ, capable of many computations at once. But for some reason, it holds sex in a specific relationship. Go ask the evolution gods, but I suspect that fact supports the primacy of procreation in the animal kingdom. Now to the task at hand. I enjoy, if allowed, poking a finger just a little way up my partner's ass. Gves me a slight thrill, gives some of them the same, and above all creates a wonderful hand hold for the big show. Whether fingering the 'G' spot, the clit, or the entire area (remember the clit circles the whole vaginal opining - what we think of is just the head of the iceberg, which is anything but icy); using my tongue on the clit head or deeper in the vulva; or in intercourse - when a woman climaxes her anal sphyncter contracts strongly enough to fel as though I'm going to loose a joint or two of that finger. This is the only way I know of to tell that the orgasm has ocurred. She cannot fake a contraction that strong! Honest! I have felt that contraction amongst various partners over the years as a result of applying all the above techniques. Yes, I can honestly say the 'G' spot, given enough time for stimulation (usually it is the gal who wants to move on!) can create a massive orgasm, surprising even the woman. Your hugging, scratching, whispering, juggling etc. certainly will prepare the atmosphere for what I am talking about. However sometimes, even the woman is wanting a more direct approach - my own favorite is the tongue! Cheers. :cheers2:

 

I don't get anymore time than you or less.

It's still 24 hours in a day.

How we choose to utilise that time depends on what we decide is important.

My relationship with my partner is important.

Some people would rather spend 4+ hours in front of the T.V, that to me is a waste of time.

Patience ?

Women like what feels good, if it doesn't feel good they lose patience.

I've never had a women that complained about my technique.

It is true that women have hang ups to a greater or lessor extent, as do men.

For a women that has been sexually traumatised obviously or highly likely your going to have trouble getting her to orgasm, or maybe its not possilbe at all.

I believe and many others that a true orgasm is sporadic and involuntary contrations of the vaginal and other muscles.

I don't doubt that oral sex is affective but I don't think it should be used in isolation.

 

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Foreplay and cunnilingus is the answer.