Why can't I ever get ladies?

I dunno, random thought here, but what is it about me that turns women off? I mean is there a certain thing that they don't like or do I just naturally not have that charm?


Hmm

 

These are tough times to be a heterosexual male because, on average, women are economically mobile in services and we are not. That creates a lot of assumptions about who we are, how we should act, and our worth (whether people are conscious of it or not). Conversely, a lot of women suffer from an overinflated sense of self and unrealistic expectations of men.

You look good. I doubt it has anything to do with charm or looks. Do you have male friends you can trust? What else in life do you love aside from the ladies?

The only way to meet women without playing status games is through a network of friends and by doing something you love and meeting others who share your interest.

Good luck.

 

Take up a hobby that involves socializing with the opposite sex. This way, if you meet someone interesting there you already know you both have at least one thing in common.

 

who ties a bandana like that ? your wearin it in both pics...same bandana...could be the bandana...i am not as eloquent as cherea but fuck buddy...lose the bandana...i'm tellin you as a friend and not the epic douchebag...the bandana is the problem

 

lol! There are chicks out there that like bandanas.

 

bandanas are useful - you can tie someone's wrists to the bedposts and blindfold them (assuming you have an extra one)

 

yes cherea this is true..i too wear a bandans occasionally..but i switch it up..interchange with baseball hats..beanis...skull caps...buddy might not realize his ''trademark'' bandana might need a wash or replacing..they are only a dollar..he should get like 50 or so and keep the ladies guessin..''oh here comes jim,I wonder what cool bandana he has on today?''...or...''oh,here comes jim and what a shock he is wearin the ratty old blue bandana..I wonder if knows we would fuck him if he would only lose the bandana...hi jim ''

 

jim i just noticed the orange power cord runnin along the wall over your shoulder in the pic...are you tappin power for hydroponic purposes...you are arent you....cant fool me

 

Ok. But all of that creates the unrealistic expectation that if you change your clothes, hair, or style...the girls are going to like you. Haven't we all heard this kind of thing since we were 14?

You know good and well that if he takes the bandana off, some girls would say, "I would fuck him if only he had a bandana on." Or if he washed the bandana they would say, "He looks like too much of a pretty boy. If only he was more rugged and dirty! Like a real man!" And if he made himself more rugged, he'd be too rugged with no class, etc.

The point is that it's never enough to be whom you are. That's the point. People are made into commodities.

I say, in time, he can meet a woman who likes him just the way he is.

Cheers. :cheers2:

 

Well the bandana has been a part of my look for 6 years at least, same bandana, and yes I do occasionally wash it. There are several girls I talk to on this site that say they like me and would date me, but none of them live close.

And yes rolling you caught me, don't tellt he cops

 

note to jim...looks like cherea has some good points..you should probably listen to her more than me....I was tryin to make ya laugh and forget that ya had to wack-off again tonight...if its any consolation i have been single since aug. 06 and have been recently steppin up my efforts to meet a lady..my particular problem[cherea feel free to offer me advice here]is that i am a young grandfather...chicks hear ya have grand kids and its adios....i keep smilin..you all too

 

I'm male.

 

sorrry dude but you just made my night cause this just got way funnier[to me]

 

Here's my take mate. Nuff girls have been attracted to me and sadly I don't pay much attention to them as i'm looking for that special one but I think some of the secrets are

Be yourself (obviously if you're being a jerk, you'd have to change)
don't mess around ladies much as they'd think you're a player
try and get a good body - ladies won't admit it but they love well built guys and those who look sexy too
have a sense of humour around them
don't harass them

 

in my experience there are so many diff tastes among girls. wenever i go out to party i know wat kind of girls are gonna be there so usually i dress to match their tastes. some ppl might think im being fake, but i fit in to so many diff cliques that i am able to do such a thing. i always have the same personality but its really amazes me everytime how a little change in how u look affects how girls perceive you. and nigel has a point about the getting in shape deal. i mean ive gotten a lot of girls being out of shape but wen i actually put some time into gettin in shape they love it. girls see a washboard stomach and they generally love it. now if your lookin for a relationship and not just a fuck then jus be yourself and dress however you want to. they key to getting girls is simply being able to talk to them. something most guys regrettably cannot do. being able to approach a female and engaging them in a meaningful conversation is key. find somethin that interests the both of you immediately and keep it goin.

 

But what if you don't like knitting stuff?

 

coming from someone with ovaries, it's the bandana.

 

Why can't I ever get ladies?

uh... you really don't know , do you?

 

I think that people come up with all kinds of generalized theories as to why they're not finding relationships (economy, women's lib, the price of tea in China, etc. ) and most of it is a bunch of BS. If you scratch the surface just a little bit you'll find certain personality traits that act as a repellant.

Indy Hippy, I don't know too much about you, but the one sense that I do have is that you may have too much emphasis on the mental/philosophical and not as much on the physical... dwelling more in your body, being in touch with your sexuality, feeling more comfortable in your skin. Genuine self confidence really does play a big role in attraction. If you're feeling insecure then you may want to address that directly.

 

Are macho frat boys the pinnacle of "genuine self-confidence"? What about girls with fake boobs?

Because both are in high-demand. That's what I find superficial about the confidence theory.

What is self-confidence in isolation anyway? Conceit (insecurity).

Furthermore, the confidence theory doesn't explain why insecure girls with an equivalent level of attractiveness to the OP can walk into a bar at any day of the week and be approached by multiple males.

I think it is impossible to attain self-acceptance without accepting others in a community setting (I don't mean philosophical acceptance, but the material act of acceptance through relationships). But it is not impossible to be arrogant and keep reminding oneself of how cool and awesome one is in front of the mirror.

Unfortunately, that won't get anyone laid either because in the zero-sum game of one-upmanship, those who are up get the pussy and those who are not, don't.

Whether they have bandanas or are fat, bald and disgusting, or whether they are insecure, or conceited, or what - it doesn't matter. Men of status get laid.