Spoiling your girlfriend.

When the flower delivery guy comes to my door i get this huge rush of elation. I turn into a little girl and jump up and down like i high schooler. When a guy shows his affection through flowers hes a keeper for sure. If you do not do this for your significant other you should give it a try and bask in the results.

 

I love this gril since the day we met, we have been dating for 6 month and then we finish. for a year we didnt see each other, last September we started to see each other again, I still in love for her.

Every time I see her I melt even I know that we are just good friends, every week she comes for a meal and every week give to her flowers. when I can we go for a drive, to the pictures "cinema" or to the playground with her child.

she has good sence of humour, bue eyes blond hair and a marvellous smile, she's older then me 7 years as I am 32 and she's 40.

She seems to enjoy the flowers but spoil her this way seems not be enough.
I cant make pressure and need to have carefull with what I say and do as I am honest and say everything that it goes in my mind.

I say I love her, but she says " you need to show you love me, just words dont meam enough".

shall I keep spoilling her?
Am I not doing well ? or
She doesn't deserve me?

What Am I doing wrong???

 

dave carried my drum kit upstairs for me and put it in the kitchen. it'll be much easier to practice now. so SWEET.

wee all hung out in the kitchen last night making all kinds of noise.

 

mmmmmmmmmmm id much rather have a foot rub and a cuddle than a fancy meal or expensive stuff... but im also single, so i get neither =[

 

cravador, you're doing this all wrong. Don't spoil a girl unless you're in a solid relationship with her, and even then I would be careful.

Firstly, they don't (generally) appreciate being lavished with gifts.
Second, don't make your giftgiving a routine. Giving her flowers every week? Big yawn.
Third, you shouldn't say you love her. Jesus. That's a declaration made at a special moment, not words to be thrown around.

Find greener pastures. You need a clean slate. She's not that special.

 

every woman is that special Jimmy P.

so you are madly in love with her and don't know how to express it? find the little things, the goofy things and embody them. roses are nice, but what is her favorite flower? (im a sucker for daffodils and muscari myself) whats her very favorite thing? bake cookies in the shapes of letters and have them spell out a poem. be creative and woo her, or give it up.

 

my wife doesn't like it when I spoil my girlfriend too much

 

I have had good experiences with doing special romantic things. Sometimes the inexpensive gifts are best if they are well thought out and executed with a theme in mind that has long lasting effect.

One example is that when I decided to take a job out of the country, knowing it would cause long periods apart, I bought my wife a stuffed lion, and told her the lion had a job. The lion's job was to remind her that I love her. She sends me pictures of her holding the lion. Over the years, we have passed the lion back and forth, sneaking into luggage when one of us is leaving for a trip. This six dollar lion has been a very good investment. My favorite picture is one she sent me, holding the lion agains ther breast, wearing nothing else.

Do the little things, and do them when least expected. But of course you have to continued to do the normal things, like birthday, valentines, and anniversary. And I agree with the earlier post about helping around the house to free up some play time later in the evening.

Something else I did was created a video and posted on Youtube. It was of a lot of the places we had enjoyed messing around in.. parking lots, roof tops, the mall, ect. and put it to music "I will remember you". If you want to check it out, search on youtube for user iiz1972.

James
Good luck.

 

Ha! Touche! Of course everyone is special. I trust you, too, include men in that.

But a lot of guys have a tendency to idolize one particular woman and put her up on a pedestal and then they go about pining and struggling like this poor fellow. My point was, essentially, that there are many more women in the world so there really is no need to put yourself through all that emotional misery over one girl. Realize you have other options, and ironically, that will make you more attractive to the woman in question.

 

I want to spoil your girlfriend...doggy-style

If I had a girliefriend I'd at least be nice to her...that'd be like spoiling her for me.

 

I don't have much experience with getting spoiled. But I love to spoil others. Not just boyfriends, but friends and family. If I'm out and I see something that is just perfect for a friend I'll get it (if I have the $, I'm far from rich). What I really love is handmade stuff. Or just adding a personal touch to stuff. It's probably because my mom's always done that stuff, on cards she'll doodle all over the envelope. I don't think I'd want to be spoiled, but a random gift every now and then is much more special than a birthday gift. When someone says, "I saw this and it made me think of you." It really makes me feel good. Ya know?

 

If your significant other is a good person and treats you right, you're not spoiling them. You're giving back what they give to you.

 

i do mean men too, but you can't fault him for being in love. unreciprocated love is a tragedy, and draining on people. but theres always hope.

 

In love.. hmph. Forgive me for being a tad cynical, but this word is thrown out way too often. There are plenty other women out there who are equally special and worthy of his, and other male's, attention, and until he realizes this he will probably a) not get his girl and b) continue to be lovesick and unhappy.

To be attractive, you must realize you are attractive. Sure there is hope for him and the object of his desire, but lavishing her with gifts and telling her he loves her is not the way to go. To get her, he must become attractive in her eyes, and it seems clear he has not achieved that at the moment.

Of course, he has only given us a tiny bit of the story so it is hard to say, and I could easily be wrong.

 

Tim cleaned and washed my car the other day out of the blue, I thought that was the sweetest thing.

 

I love recieving flowers at work, but since I work at home most of the time and no longer have an office, I don't enjoy them as much. I think i just liked being the girl at work who always got flowers, the attention.
Now that I am married, I like more practical ways of beign spoiled. I think it's super sweet when my husband brings me a latte before I wake up or calls in and picks up my perscription.
Don't get me wrong, I love it when he comes home from a work trip with a new coach bag, jewlery or just a cute 'I love you' gift, but the little things are what really make me happy.

 

I like it when he washes my car too. That always makes me feel special too and I HATE washing my car.

 

ill randomly get my gf shit. if i think she will like it. mainly because i forget shit and may forget her b-day or our 'anniversary" or something