I am awful at picking up signals

I love that movie, daniel day-lewis is amazing in that. And you're only 17, I think most people your age sucks with talking to girls. Most guys in general suck at it actually. It's all about confidence. You might find the occasional chick who finds a shy guy appealing, but most want a guy who knows what he wants.

 

:cheers2: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7UnCYGynH-Q

 

I'm in no way shy. Like I can confidently talk to girls, it isn't even a problem. It's just picking up on whether they dig me or not.

 

Flirty and touchy does it. Then ask if they want to hang out some more.

 

Word...I just don't think when I'm talking to chicks I dig.

Like spring break just started, some girl that I'm interested in was asking me if I'm doing anything over break - going anywhere whatever whatever. I just totally missed my opportunity to ask her if she was going anywhere and to tell her we should hang...it was wide open. And I don't have her number or anything either - so I fail.

 

dude picking up girls, or at least talking to them isnt hard...whenever your out just check out whoever you interested in and watch here, see if she looks over at you..when i see a chick that i think is pretty look at me like every couple minutes i take it as she wants me to come over there...

its not hard bro then when you get over just talk about whatever the hell yall talk about in kansas...wicked witches and yellow brick roads roght?

 

I'm not in Kansas... -.-
It's Kansas City, MISSOURI and it isn't some small hicktown, either. We've got a pretty big metro area and a very extensive city limits.

But seriously TALKING and APPROACHING girls isn't hard for me. It comes quite naturally. I just don't know when they are digging me...at least on the spot. Like I said above, I usually can deduce a girl's feelings but I don't act on them and I realize this later on and get down on myself for letting opportunity for asking a girl out on a date or something go by me.

 

thats what im sayin bro its in the eyes, and smiles...you see bright eyes and a smile and she keeps lookin over at you..then your good my man... if her pupils get bigger while she looks at you, your good...itll cpome with time..im only 20 and ive got it down pretty goood i mean every weekend when i go out i find a chick to get with..just watch the eyes brother

 

^Word up. Good advice

 

Anyone can get halfway with a girl and chat to them, the difference between a man and a boy is whether you can seal the deal.

 

Suppose so. In my situation I'm friends with this girl, so rejection might mean some awkwardness. My fear of any rejection will soon pass I am hoping, as I will be leaving Kansas City in a few months

 

how do you think i feel, im 17 and done fuck all with girls at all, im always out at parties etc, i chat to them and stuff, but it just never happens, often i think its because im a bit too off my face (mdma etc), but ive calmed down now and stopped that and just have a few drinks, but i still never get with anyone and its making me feel shit tbh, like its never gonna happen.

 

Honestly...you just gotta keep your head up.
Myself - I just try not to worry about it too much. I figure whatever happens will happen. I can only increase my odds by signaling that I'm interested.

I always tend to back off at the wroooong times and it usually screws me over...I just want to land with a decent girl - however I am leaving to college so that's some shit going against me. What decent girl will want to start something up when I'll be leaving?

Hmm...guess it's another time for the waiting game.

 

cut through all the bullshit as much as possible when you can see that a girl is receptive. that is all.

 

Yeah...I can't help with the bullshit though when I'm not even certain the girl is being receptive. I pretty much end up waiting for the girl to make the move - which seriously doesn't happen often and then I just kind of brush it off and don't pursue further.

I really just need luck to play a big part with me for once and just let me hook up with this girl - hahaha. I'm tired of playing footsies with her man...no more beatin around the bush!

 

Man, I was just looking on the internet for ways to hallucinate without drugs and found this website.
A lot of guys who just make girls out to be way more complicated then they are(although they are complicated).
You just have to be in control, be confident! Some girls like those nervous shy types but I would say that is few in comparison to the ones who want that guy who can be in control.
If you just go around a girl , stop thinking about what could or not happen, just be yourself and be cool.
I have a great sense of humor, I am a funny guy. I use this to my advantage. Although I am not the type of guy just trying to get with girls, I am recently out of a relationship but I remember before I ever got with a girl thinking similar ways to these guys on here.
You just have to snap completely out of that mind state really.
Confidence is key. Play it cool don't be weird.. It's really not as complicated as you guys make it out to be. I use to think it was but then I realized I was a charismatic person anyway. I use to have trouble picking up signals but I think it was more because I was nervous. I read the signals just didn't want to respond.

You have to snap out of that some day. Now's the time.

 

grrr I don't have any issues with getting girls...I am comfortable with that. It's just that the girls I am interested in seem to only give subtle hints - ones that I often miss...or misinterpret?

 

Oh... Then go for it. If you miss them once then go with them another time...

 

Miss them once - shame on you! Miss them twice - shame on me! Miss them three times - come on just give me some fuckin head...