My boyfriend is in jail..

K. so my boyfriend just went to jail.
He's facing 2 and a half years.
I haven't talked to him because my cell got disconnected && i got a new number .
its so hard.
i don't know how to deal with this.
I'm not sure if i can hold on for 2 years.
I can bearly handle myself for a week..
but i dont want to let go.
he told me it was my job to keep him, he just made that SO hard.
ugh.
help me.?

 

take it day by day and see what happens....

you guys can still be friends and keep in touch if he gets locked up for that long...

but it's probably not much of a relationship if you're already considering bailing on him...

dont know what to tell ya really?!

 

I'll be blunt.

Your boyfriend is a failure.

I would assume you can do better.

 

Well if he's in minimum security he'll probably get conjugal visits...

 

yeah. i personally would not wait around for him but i'm not the kind of person to put my life on hold for anyone. what did he get locked up for? i don't dat jail type guys either so yeah..

 

I'd leave him. Kinda gross that he expects you to wait around 2.5 years for him... Yechh. But what'd he do anyway?

 

It's your "job" to keep him? That ought to set off alarm bells in your head. Unless of course you are really willing to commit to him. But if not, then it's really going to be a "job" if you catch my drift.

 

its your decision, if u really love this guy and want to put in the effort to make it work, then thats' your choice. its also your choice if you want to say ya know what? u fucked up and got sent to jail, so Im outta here. He wasnt thinking of the consequences when he did whatever he did, certainly wasnt thinking of you. and its not your "job" to wait for him. So if hes trying to pull some mental control bullshit on you, bail out right now, because abuse in any way shape or form is NEVER Ok. Ask yourself one question is he worth what you'll have to go through to be with him again? If the answer is No, or "I dont know", then leave and never look back. If the answer is "yes" , then I wish the best of luck to you both. Either way you have a decision to make.

 

Great insight, I agree.

 

You can not assume HE went to jail b/c HE did something he may have taken blame he may have done something been with someone jail birds is very harsh word in my book . I would how you say that around this forum , because there are some ppl that have been there done time and are fantastic ppl. on another note there are not so nice ppl and just deserve nothing. I personally am the type to see her side, his side and the truth behind

 

I gotta reply to this, hey, FUCK you. Thats a horrible thing to say you asshole. If you love him, you will stay with him, tough it out. Trust me, its WAY harder for him than it is for you. If you end it, that will make his life so much harder than it already is. Stay with him, be the light when he is in a place with no light.

 

Three words.

Waste of time.

Pure and simple, life's too short.

 

He left her when he decided to do something that would put him at risk of not seeing her for two years. Seriously, guys. There are CONSEQUENCES for your actions. Part of being an adult is weighing them BEFORE you act, and accepting them when they come.
Let's face it, he didn't join the Peace Corps to go and feed the poor for two years. He's in JAIL. Hardly noble.
Be understanding, you say. Be forgiving, you say. That's all well and good, but I don't fault anyone who can't make it through a long-distance relationship. I've done it. It's wicked fucking hard, and if I hadn't known that I had the best guy in the world waiting to start his life with me, I probably wouldn't have kept on.
That's the difference here. He took the risk. He did something stupid. Obviously, I don't know the story, so I could be wrong, but it sounds like the guy is a flake and not worth waiting for, especially if he tells you that you HAVE TO wait for him because you owe him or something. That's just bullshit. If he really loved you, he would let you make up your own mind. This IS a big deal.
This isn't some little stint. This is a good chunk of time. You guys can play it off like it's nothing, but trust me, it's something. Just two months makes me so numb I'm walking around like a zombie, laying in bed at night flipping channels because I can't sleep with that big empty space beside me, waking up in the middle of the night and crying because I'm so alone... It wears you down. If you're already having trouble, I'd say it ain't gonna work. It fucks you up...

 

Love is timeless.

 

Have you ever been in this situation?

 

Well......he probs shouldn't have got himself locked up then...

 

Yes I have. And my love stuck with me. Absence makes the heart grow fonder.
Love conquers all

 

Good for you. Ever thought that you just may be the exception to the rule? Not every relationship lasts that long - not every romantic loving relationship is that strong. Everyone is different. If the OP follows your advice, maybe it WILL work out - maybe it WON'T. Either way, we can't be sure.

 

Dump him, unless you really like giving blowjobs in public visitation rooms.

lulz

 

You guys suck.