Has anyone ever dated two people and hid it from both of them? If so, how did you choose which one you wanted, and did you think it was wrong?
Yes, if both are ok with it, I see no problem in it. Just don't lie. That's where complications can arise.
thats for sure, well these two guys think im dating only them. I really love one of them, but he lives kinda far from me. the other lives in my twn but I come to the conclusion i only like him as a friend, but am unsure how to break it to him since I dont want him to get hurt. and the only reason i agreed to date him in the first place, is because the one i love who lives far from me, well, I never expected it to go as far as it did, or last as long as it has...so...there's the dilemma...messed up as it sounds, I dont want to be alone either, so I kinda kept the one in my twn as a backup in case the one who lives far didnt want me nemore...which is wrong...im an evil bitch...but what started out innocent has gotten out of control..
You don't want him to get hurt, but he will - no matter how gently you go about it. Still, that's better then having them find out on their own. Be prepared for him to hate you.
Yes. I had a relationship that was starting to get serious, and I met this other girl whom I felt totally infatuated by and had some of the best sex of my life with. Technically, me and my girlfriend at the time had not formally decided to commit to each other, but I did duck and hide; and had my roommate tell her I went to the supermarket when she called, etc. The girl I was having casual sex with knew about my more serious relationship. But my more serious relationship didn't know about the casual sex girl. Eventually, casual sex girl dropped out of my life and I stayed with my girlfriend for three years. Always carrying a sense of guilt and never said anything. Finally, when me and my ex-girlfriend broke up, she found out about it. I won't go into how she did it, but it was THE GREATEST RELIEF OFF MY SHOULDERS I've felt in my life. And what was more surprising about it all: she said I didn't cheat. She was ok with it. So, I would have been much better off telling her in the beginning. It was the closest thing to cheating I've ever done, and I don't plan on doing it again. I've been with multiple women simultaneously since then, but letting all the parties involved know what I was doing so they could make an informed decision. The most liberating feeling in the world.
well im in it too deep to tell them the truth. The one I love I sure as hell wont tell him a damn thing, I wont risk losing him. He wants me to move in with him though and i want to, but i'll have to figure out how to tell this other guy, the one I dont want whats going on..been trying to think of excuses like "I had to move"..or "Im going to stay with friends " etc...maybe "I have to move an hr awy, so we should just be friends so we dont have to deal with a LDR" I dunno....I guess i learned a lesson in not assuming what people will and wont do.
