What do you need to change about yourself? Not the world, we all know what is wrong with that, but as human beings we all have our shortcomings. So look at yourself and think about what would you would consider as being room for improvement in your own life? Nobody elses, just your own. What could you change in your attitude and what behaviour/habits do you think you could dump or improve?
My own personal attitudes that I could work on would be that I can sometimes be a little bit arrogant, I like to think I know best a lot of the time and can be a right stubborn git. Sometimes I think I lack compassion, although this is rare. My own personal habits would include vanity, laziness, eating too much fried food (not meat any more though), driving everywhere, untidiness, possibly an unhealthy obsession with sex and a complete lack of willingness to do any physical exercise.
I think I could speak out for myself a little more. I'm usually to humble in what I agree and disagree with.
I procrastinate I'm stupidly untidy I'm unfit I'm tactless I'm boring, I'm annoying I'm immature I never know when to drop anything I'm lazy I'm tone deaf I have negative body image I take things too personally I'm depressed I feel lonely all the time I get too attached to people I find it hard letting go of things
I speak before I think. I'm too straight with my opinions and even tho I KNOW my opinions are just my opinions and other people have different ones and I do respect them for that, I still have this attitude that everyone should think and act like me. I guess I'm selfish like that. But I swear, I don't MEAN to be like that. I'm too open with showing my feelings (in some cases... like for example, if someone annoys me, it's very easy to notice that).
I know someone like that. maybe my shortcomings are that i can't face upto my shortcomings , 'i just know people like that'
I've spent a lot of my adult life working on myself really since I realised that in order to change the world you have to start with yourself. So there's nothing majorly wrong about me (maybe my hairstyle......) most of the stuff I still want to change is about limiting myself. I'm way too self-critical. I assume that others know me than me and are more intelligent. I care too much about other peoples' opinions. I put myself down in front of people so I don't appear big-headed. I spend too much time in front of mirrors. I let Dok get away with his short temper! I feel too much guilt for very little reason. I put others before myself too much. I can be lazy, lack self-motivation and am untidy. I always spill food when I'm eating I sometimes go to extremes with a negative attitude towards people when I don't necessarily even feel that way. I analyse myself too much. I'd really like to do a flyology but don't want to be self-indulgent!
I have ridiculously high expectations of myself, which I know I can't fulfill and so don't bother. I can't do anything because my standards of what I should be capable of cripple and immobilise me.
I bloody knew you were a cancerian just from reading that! It does get better ya know Unless you're Showmet *ducks*
I find it fascinating and somewhat sad that we seem to pay more attention to our 'flaws' than our positive traits. It's like a constant battle with 'the dark side'. It's easier to be down on ourselves and almost seen as arrogant or 'up oneself' to be saying nice things about ourselves. Bloody weird, fucked up, humans.
It's because a) talking about ones faults amongst others is easier, because we all know we have faults, but many of us don't know we have strengths; so we relate more comfortably on that level and b) we're English.
..... and admitting to faults makes us look very mature and self-aware. So, conversely, admitting to ones faults can actually be an act of ego
Possibly. I was thinking more that we know our peers resent success, so we make more of our failings in the name of modesty.
I think also, if you say that you're good at a particular thing you open yourself up for immediate criticism, there's a fear that not everyone will agree with you, whereas when you put yourself down people are more likely to disagree with you so it's almost like a reverse psychology - say you're crap at something, get a compliment!
