Have you been with someone when they died , have you come to the point where you thought you were dieing is it important to you how you die . have you written your will, do you think death is far off is it something you try not to think about or you have nightmares over . what brings this up is someone was going on about jade goodys death and why were people making anything about it . one of the things that Ive learned in the last 20 years or so is this idea most people have that they die when their very old is quite bogus , what you start noticing is friends getting killed in accidents or with things like cancer quite young. also when you personally have very near misses it gives you a better understanding of the game we are all involved in . this may seem a depressing topic but some people die very fearless my father did , also understanding your own mortality can be helpful it makes you understand whats really important most people I think live lives devoted to triffles . when I thought I was dieing I thought about other people and relationships, I didn't think about money or how many hats I had , I could imagine if you had regrets of things you hadn't done or tried for they could make dieing harder . also if you had a guilty conscience I think that would make dieing harder one of the reasons I think my father died so well is the way he lived which was pretty bold , he also had a long time to come to terms with things he had done earlier in life that he regretted. anyway what are your thoughts on the subject
im not afraid of death, but i vary rarely think about it anymore. not coz i want to push it to the back of my mind but because im to proccupied with living. i would obviously like to just fall asleep one night and never wake up, but chances of that happening without any illness as a precurser is pretty slim and im aware of that and except it. whatever happens, happens. i live an ok life though, i dont smoke at all or drink more than a bottle of ale a week at the most etc so if i get some sort of disease i know it wouldn't be through my own doing at least, which may give me some comfort i suppose. if i died today i don't think i would have many regrets. I've made mistakes, but i don't regret them and all the shit thats gone on i can't change, and to some extent i think its built me up to be a better person. i also never take for granted whats truelly important in life and have never been one to be caught up in material things. i've got plenty of stuff, like my laptop and phone etc and its useful and a source of entertainment but give me a sunny day, a beach and my boyfriend and thats what its really all about and i never forget that.
Ever since my near death experience (me and my mate got lost in the bush while we were stoned) i never thought about all emotion for the subject left me completely so i dont give a shit aboyut what happenms to me, i would like to be murdered though.
Ive thought I was dying and have nearly died, and I wasnt afraid, I just wanted it over with at the time Of course now its completely different because I want so much to be alive. I think Id shit my pants at the thought of having to leave my husband because I dont know if he'd cope, and theres too much I still want to do and so much to live for. Obviously if it was inevitable like terminal illness Id pull myself together and make the absolute most of it, and try and face it bravely People do plod through life assuming they have all the time in the world, and thats bullshit. We need to make the absolute most of every day, because even if you live a healthy lifespan, the time goes so quickly, and those who are "put it off for another day" types usually never get it done. Id hate to reach 80 and look back and regret not living enough. Thatd just be horrible
If someone i loved died or mainly committed suicide id kill myself too just to be with them Dying of natural causes would be boring
After my grandmother died, she was still in her hospital bed and me, my mum, my sister and my uncle all went to see her, we saw her lying there, dead on the bed, we held her hand. I was 8. I am glad I had such a close encounter with death, it has given me my views on it today, which I think are healthy, although sometimes I want to die, I get suicidal over small things, I am "close" to death I guess, it is on my mind alot. xxx
Me too johnny. I've known people who died in their 20s, 40s, teens even; yet most of us still carry on living as if we're immortal. One thing I sometimes think is that in a sense we've already died, in that our old selves have effectively ceased to exist. Look at a picture of yourself at age 10 or so: where's that little boy now? What does he have in common with you as you are today?
Dont worry nobody comes back to let us know what its like . and when your dead who knows , just enjoy living first
I believe my initial fear of death comes from not ever being able to see my family or friends agin or from never being able to dream again. And o be honest, i can't imagine not existing. I mean, the concept is so extreme that i sometimes believe that it doesn't exist.
It is hard, almost impossible to imagine yourself not existing. But some Buddhists and some neuroscientists believe that you don't even exist now: the idea of a persistent self that survives from day to day, let alone after death, is an illusion. Someone who has explored these issues from both directions is the psychologist Susan Blackmore, whose Very Short Introduction to Consciousness is one of the scariest books I've read. She's posted excerpts from her latest book Ten Zen Questions at her website. One of the knottiest questions is of course: if there is no self, who is asking the questions?
