is there something wrong with me please help!!!

So ive been with my girl for 6 months and we just started mesding around. I fingered her and im pretty sure she got off. Then she tried to give me a handjob. I loved the feeling and all but i couldnt get off. She went for about ten minutes or so before she quit. I can get hard fine that isnt a problem. Is there sonething wrong with me or is it something with her?

 

Also im trying to stop masturbating. I do it A LOT but im trying to stop because i wonder if im used to to my own hand too much.

 

Relax. If this happens again, relax. She should not go too fast. You should remember that she wants you to "finish". Guys can do a lot to keep from finishing too soon, but it is really more difficult to turn that off. Maybe you can hold her hand a few times. Get your mind in the mood for her to do the "work".
NASA scrubs launches many times. You are 18, you will have a few technical difficulties over your life. Learn from them and move forward.

 

She needs more practice....send her to me

 

I've had a few women who think that my dick works like a cow's udder, and they "pull" on it, like milking a cow. That absolutely does not work. For me, at least, it takes a pushing movement, not a pulling one. And another thing, the frantic, rapid movement usually doesn't work until the last few seconds, and she/I need to go fairly slowly up until that point. All this applies to a bj, too.

Any of this sound familiar to anyone else?

 

Well she does a lot of pulling and really only on the tip but when she goes rarely goes for the base it feels like i get closer to busting and i have these "miniorgasms" but there not actually orgasms i dont know how to describe them. So maybe its her?

 

No one will ever know your cock the way you do. The surest way to get off is always going to be to jack it, unless you suffer from premature ejaculation.

I have never in my life managed to get off from a blowjob, and certainly not a handjob.

The miniorgasms you speak, I get those all the time about 10 minutes into a blowjob.

Show her you do it yourself, take this opportunity to teach her something and strengthen your bond.

 

isn't that a little awkward though to say hey let me do it you watch? i mean how do you actually go about doing that without making her seem like a fail at stuff like this.

 

Just hold her hand while she's jacking you and show her the movement that you like.

 

Just instruct her. Be her teacher. You don't have to actually jack it, just show her how your grip is, where it is, how firm it is, tell her what pace you like, etc.

It might feel awkward at first, but you're both new at this, she'll appreciate the lesson, you'll both be more comfortable with each other, and it'll set an important precedent of communication being more important than insecurities.

 

ok my friend, how often do you dry hand it.. atleast for me its when i'm too lazy to go grab some lotion/ take a shower.
get some warming lube or let her bust out the lotion. its all based off of conditioning and what your most comfy/ familiar with- its like being new to golf. she has a bigger handicap. give her the tools needed to succeed!

 

The roles were reversed, of course, but one of the most sensual things I ever did was convince my girlfriend to show me how/what pleased her by masturbating for me. I positioned myself near her crotch and watched her closely, finally taking over and, eventually, licking her. Wow, what a rush. It was embarassing for her, I know, but what made a difference was that she knew that I'd be a better lover for her if I understood, exactly, what buttons to push and when.

 

I want it known that I could have made jokes about this thread and the posts contained in it...jokes of super-douchery proportion..however I know how delicate it can be when you find out that your peepee doesnt work

 

I have the same problem with hand jobs... they never really get me off... I like them... they feel good... they just dont work for me... try grabbing her hand when she is doing it and helping her out a little bit... it works for me...

 

As long as you like the way it feels, don't worry about anything else. You come whenever you come. Putting pressure on yourself to perform a certain way every time will take all the fun out of it. You don't want her to feel performance pressure either.

 

I usually dry hand it. By usually i mean always.

 

I guess its nice to know im not alone and thanx for the advice ill try it.

 

Hold her hand and show her what works best. It could be the best school in the world!