more of a personal question for you all...

wow.. quite a story. lucky you and your mom that she found a good guy to be your dad when the first one failed at the job! my mom is convinced that the only reason the universe brought her and my father together was to have me and my brother, they couldn't be more different. my dad is an intellectual and my mom is a mystic

 

lol Critik, I was the same when I was younger. I could get homesick staying at a friends house for the night and fake being sick so I could go home
and hax that is soo interesting! I also have a step-daughter, Kiah whos 4. Her mum is crazy so I feel like I was meant to come into her life. Me and my husband give her the love and stability she needs.

 

very cool. yeah i am one of those lucky ones and am truly greatfull for it

 

My family is amazing. We are the closest family I know. Four kids, three of us are best friends. My sister's husbands family isn't as close as ours, so he seems jealous, and seems to be keeping her form us for this reason. It's quite the situation. But I'm at least glad he has been around, to give me two beautiful nieces which seemed to have brought the rest of us even closer together.

 

I have a huge southern family...right down to the big hair, southern drawl, big Sunday dinners at grandmas, ice tea on the porch swing while you gossip about the neighbors. I love them to death. They are all witty, eccentric, and have contagious laughs. I have always pushed the limits with my fam, and they love me in spite of it. Nothing beats family!

 

I always got along with my family and still do. They started to worry about me a little bit when I started my anti-religious movement but everything was fine. They never cared about my hair because they always said "it's just hair"

 

yep all it is is dead red blood cells, dont know why people get so up tight about how it looks...thats cool though hearing about all different walks of life

 

I'm close with my mom, and my grandparents. I haven't really been on speaking terms with my dad or two of my sisters for a few years now. They don't approve of my lifestyle, and I don't approve of theirs. It sucks, but I'm very close with my hubby and my daughter; I am very blessed to have them in my life.

 

indeed...they are lucky to have such a devoted mother and wife

 

Thank you...that actually brought a tear to my eye, you're so sweet.

 

hooray! im glad i could make your day

 

Somedays my parents are nice to me others not so much. I don't really care for them, because they don't like me to be myself. Such as me getting tattoos or dreading my hair and the biggest being switching my psych major over to art... they had a huge problem with that. I'm more closer to my girlfriend she seems more apart of me than anything else. I also have a brother and sister but they're just complete snobs.

 

sometimes your family is your friends, those who will be there for you no matter what

 

I know what ya mean on that, but they love me just not for who i am. Anyone else have to put a fake mask on when your around your parents? lol, have to do that for pretty much everyone.

 

that sucks, when i decided to get dreads, i called my mom and said, mom...i think im gonna get dreads, she was like...oh, COOL and i was like, im down

 

That's so cool. Shit I'm 35 and dodged my fam for a while. Until Christmas when I could no longer keep them at bay. Other than a few stupid jokes, hasn't really been much of an issue since.

 

my mom helped make a couple of my dreadies. the family makes fun of my some about them- and all my ways...but that's just their way

 

gotta love their quirks

 

i've been thinking about my childhood and family lately. i have a lot overdue things to get off my chest so i figured this would be fine. i've realized that my mom and step-dad don't really care about me at all. as for my biological dad, i've spoken to him maybe two or three times in my life. i have one sister who's 11. her and I will probably get along great when she's older. and for that, i feel blessed. but i've always been a financial burden for my parents. the grade school days were fine because it was expected for them to do things for me. but once high school came around.. it was non-stop complaining about how much it cost to send me there. i didnt even pick to go to private lutheran school. the car i drove, clothes i needed, food, social things i wanted to be a part of, everything. they are obsessed with money and dont care about enjoying life how it should be. i've felt jaded for this lately. and honestly, i've never talked to anyone about this. i just started college this year and hang out with 3 kids from grade school. we didnt go to high school and we used to be really good friends. now they're all happy and positive, which i was too. but now i'm just always upset or thinking. constantly changing my mind on things because i dont have a good role model. i didnt really realize these things either until i started college(in spring) because i didnt have too many high school friends to compare lives with. i honestly thought that maybe thats just how all parents are with their kids. maybe i'm just socially awkward as a result from all these things. writing this novel about my life on a website could probably be good evidence to that. however, i feel somewhat relieved after this. if anything, i hope anyone who actually took the time to read this, and has a good family who loves them, will be reminded how enriched their lives are.
what gets me through the days
I believe Jah(God) loves me
the poor in spirit are blessed

 

Thanks for the insight Corey. Now that my two oldest girls are old enough to work I have been trying to enforce skills. Not that they are a "burden" to us in any way, but I refuse to raise kids who think they are owed everything. I believe our society in general has gone to shit because of this. Work ethics are just really crap and these kids just sit around and whine because they don't want to work for what they want. Their first cars, they had to save and we matched what they saved, they pay their own insurance, and anything extra they want, they have to buy it. By extra I mean the $ 80 Hollister hoodie Raven was having a fit over. I have noticed a huge difference in my two older girls, they are proud of themselves, and they are a little more stingy with their own money than if I were just handing it to them. I hope my girls are not feeling like you....for us its not about how I would rather spend my money on me and not them. Its about teaching them a lesson. Wont be long til they are out in the big bad world alone (so to speak)