is it wrong if you value your friendship to a person that doesnt value your friendship? by this i mean if someone tells you, they would be fine without you as there friend. and is it wrong to want someone to want your friendship?
Throughout a series of recent events, I just found out that several of my friends don't value my friendship I guess. Just makes me realize that I have to look out for myself more I guess.
you're obviously a very kind person if you still value someone who doesn't value you. they'll probably come around, till then just keep smiling =) <3
my friendship is all sorts of messed up. i just feel weird most of the time, then i take a deep breath and say to myself "this is what a friendship is with someone who doesnt like to be around people" i never really had a lot of close friends. maybe one or two while growing up and now, its just the one i see almost everyday and i feel like i cant say what i want to say around him. i guess thats what you call watching what you say around someone. i want my friendship to be awesome and crazy and wild and new and unheard of and always having a good time when im around him but its not those things all the time
Not all friendships fit just right. I have a friendship like this and on some days it drives me crazy and on others I'm comfortable with it. I was the same way. I do hate any kind of relationship where I can't feel like I can be myself. However, people are going to see things differently than you and you just have to try to understand where they are coming from and try to make them understand you. It's not possible for your friendship to be that way all of the time. My two best friends have quiet moments and I can talk and talk and talk and they will never respond. On those days I just keep to myself and when I'm moody they return the favor and leave me alone. We still have days of being wild and crazy. Just be patient with your friend and try to find a balance.
ahh balance... thats like the best word. that makes me feel better. im searching for a balance between us that is compromising to both of us. its going to take some more time though. i wish everything could be established now but it will be fine.
The only people we need in our lives are those who need us in theirs. Why continue trying to be friends with someone you know doesnt care about you? To me it seems pointless. I dont think its wrong, but I think it you could end up getting hurt because of it. Why put yourself through that? What's so good about the person that you'll put up with them not value ing (dont know how to spell that lol) you as much as you value them? It isn't fair to yourself.
its not fair because i rely too much on him and him not enough for me. maybe we are supposed to even each other out? he cares about me, that part is fine. its the fact that if i were to stop talking to him and never see him again he would be fine with that and crry on in his life like nothing happend
i have a really close friend whos a girl. we stopped talking for awhile cuz of something stupid. when we started talking again she said the same thing; that she thought it didnt even faze me. it did, i just dont really show my emotions. guys are different than girls in that aspect. for me its mad hard to have a best friend whos a girl, but worth it cuz shes cool as hell. hope that helps.
I know exactly how it feels, because I have an extremely arrogant friend who acts as if she were God's gift to all people. Typical know-it-all personality. Anyway, she assumes that when she goes off to college, everyone whose path she crossed will be in tears over her absence while she won't miss me or anyone else because she's that great and awesome. I just let her think what she wants and tick off the days until she goes on my calendar because I'm sick of her not valuing me as a friend. Maybe I'm too sensitive, but why bother with people who don't give a shit about you? The only thing you're doing is wasting your time caring about them. When you have a problem, I can almost guarantee she won't be there for you half as much as you were for her.
