I've been through this scenario countless times. A couple of situations have dealt me some bad hands and have forced me to come to an important conclusion, so here goes: Let's say you have a gal pal who is great. She's funny, good looking and shares many of the same interests as you do. You've developed feelings for her, but you keep those feelings to yourself. You keep them bottled up until you can't contain them, so you tell her one day how you feel, but she DOES NOT reciprocate. In fact, she is so weirded out that she does not want to talk with you anymore. When this situation happens again in your life with another gal pal, what would you do? This happened to me three separate times and all three times the girls never wanted anything to do with me ever again. I learned to keep my feelings to myself when this happened again...and it did. Over the past years I have developed feelings for some new gal pals, but decided to not say a thing, because I really value our friendships and didn't want to lose them.
Well I'd explain what's happened before, and then tell them how you feel. Then they'd know where you're coming from and if they're real friends they wont be so quick to ditch you if they don't feel the same. The best relationships are often built on friendships so you never know until you take the chance and let them know, who knows, maybe they feel the same and are too scared to tell you? Either you let them know, or you'll wonder "what if". Good Luck!
I've had the same experience. A difficult one to judge and sometimes I've said nothing and just accepted that it won't happened.
Better to not have gal friends. Use em for other things maybe. But dont care for 'em. Hey, they dont care about any pal's feelin's. Hey, let 'em proove otherwise, but until then never actaully care.
Been in your situation before, pal. Best piece of advice I can give - be honest with yourself and her. One thing is just coming out and saying to her "Hey, I like you, want to date" - as if asking her permission. A much more powerful approach is acting like a man who shifts her emotions, makes her feel like a woman, is masculine and confident around her. Easier said than done, I know. I read this some time ago and found it helpful, let me know if you find it useful: http://sleeks.wordpress.com/2006/07/18/building-that-sexual-tension/ A
