my best friends sister has a major crush on me

i used to live in south florida... i hung out with my best friend and his family all the time... his little sister.. 9 at the time had a huge crush on me... i was 13... well i started talking to her online a few months ago she is 15 now.. im 19 now.. she admited that she still had a crush on me big time and that she was crushed when i had to move away from her... she sent a pic of her to me and she is a knock out now... she really wants me to come see her this summer and i would love to go down there but im afraid that something might happen.. being sex and that... i love her as a sister but i dont want it to really go further then that cuz of her age and that what do you think i should do..

PS.. if she was 18 i wouldnt have a problem having sex with her

 

you also have to think how is your best friend going to feel about you digging his little sister he might not like it... i dunno just a thought. same thing happen with some friends of mine... everyone was a little older though... hmm

 

yea, i agree, honestly i wouldnt care about the age thing, i would b more worried about how my friend felt abuut me having sex with their younger sibbling lol

 

honestly i dont think he would like it very much... hell i know if my best friend fucked with my sister i would want to kill the bastard.... that is the other major reason i wouldnt do it

 

I would maybe wait it out, i mean, i wouldnt mess with anything that would ruin a friendship...

 

I'd say wait until she's a bit older, as far as the friend thing, I don't see why it'd be a problem...

 

fuck her. Literally. at 15 she knows what shes doin.

 

Screw that! Little Bogs comes first!

 

You said you love her as a sister... so there shouldn't really be a problem..?

 

she's a little young for you 15 and 19 are very different ages you guys are in really different places. I have a similar story my best friend inhigh school's little brother had a crush on me (he was a year younger than me) and we went out a few times this summer and it was really weird kinda because he was younger than the guys I am used to dating but also because we knew each other as kids. Once she is of age you can try it but imo it may be a little strange.

 

Hell... some 18 year olds don't know what they're doing... to say the least.

How would you like it if I did it to you?

 

at 15 I still thought the actual act of sex was gross you can't generalize based on how you were at 15.

 

In florida age of consent is 16-24 wait alittle bit . It will be better than 20 to life .

 

it sounds like a bad situation all around.

first, the girl's a lot younger than you, so i assume she's a lot less mature. most girls come across as mature for their age, or claim they are (it's especially easy to try and fake maturity online)... but once something upsetting happens, that maturity is gone faster than you realize.

secondly, she lives in florida. where are you living? a 15 year old girl isn't looking for a weekend of hot passionate sex, no strings attached. if she's had a crush on you for all these years, she's definitely going to want a relationship. she might even think it's like a fairy tale, i mean she IS 15. "oh, how perfect, my brothers best friend is fated to be with me, and everything will work out and have a happy ending." can you hear the wedding bells ringing in her mind? that's a lot of pressure to deal with.

hormones get in the way and cloud vision, so hopefully you don't take what im saying as rude.. im just trying to offer a different perspective. so let me make sure i've got this right... you're thinking about making a long trip, to see a high school freshman, who you haven't seen in four years. your only tie to her is that she is your best friend's little sister, and you think she's hot now that she's sprouted boobs. does that sound about right?

is she a virgin? that would only make things a lot worse and much more complicated.

have you recently visited your friend, without his sister being your motivation?

let's say that you do get together:

think about what happens when you stop seeing your friend's sister... she's going to go running to her brother, to tell him how much of an ass you are. she might even succeed in convincing him that you really are an ass, because, after all, you DID get in his baby sister's pants.

are the parents going to find out? if you're at their house visiting, they probably will. if they think you're going to screw their precious, innocent little girl, they're going to hate you. maybe that'll impact things, maybe it won't, i don't know your relationship. but if you love the girl like a sister, the parents might treat you like a son... and you could easily change that. or when things end, and the girl is upset, and the parents find out it's because of you, they'll be pissed. they're going to be more angry with you, because they trust you, rather than if it was with some random head from her high school.

i'm a little confused, though... you just started talking to her online recently, and saw a picture of her? you haven't actually seen her in person in four years? she doesn't still have a crush on you, four years later. she has a crush on what her nine-year-old mind remembered you to be. how you really are now, and how she percieved you at the time, are most likely two very very different perceptions of who you are.

"knockouts" come and go, but i'd definitely advise you to stay far away from this one. if you visit, even if you say it's just to see your friend, she's still going to try to get with you. be very careful. not to sound like a bitch, but you're better off finding a knockout your own age.

 

lawn girl put a lot of effort into her post, and i agree with most of what she says....but i still say you should nail her.

 

lawn girl i like your POV ive never gone to visit him just for her... she wants me to come to visit her but its to visit the whole family... You have a good point about the fantisy things i agree to that... i just dont know how to aproach her on the subject... i love her in a way where i would never dream of hurting her or her family... maybe once she is older i will put more thought into a relsionship with her... thanks for your input

 

do it. do it do it. CHances are she snot going to wanna have sex with you anyways, jsut ebcause somone lieks sombody doesnt mean they wanna fuck.

 

thank you

since you've got a childhood history with her, and a strong connection due to her brother, you can't really (or rather, shouldn't) treat her like some random chick that just happens to come along. you love her like a sister, so you probably know this already. it could be difficult to talk to her without crushing her hopes. if you tell her what you're thinking/feeling, she'll most likely understand (though she might try to change your mind once she sees you in person). if you go to visit, and she tries to make a move on you, then gets upset (either for getting shot down or because you respond and don't maintain a relationship) it's her own fault for getting hurt; if she thinks she's mature enough to be in a relationship with you, then she should be mature enough to respect your thoughts.

have you mentioned anything to your friend about this? it would suck if you went down to visit, and then he ended up trying to kick your ass for flirting with his little sister. i'm not trying to make you worry, i just want you to be well prepared for whatever could arise.

 

haha, you would