How do you tell someone...

Got to know this guy, he is a really nice guy, we ended up kissing, but its the next day and im sober and i dont fancy him at all, but i know he thinks there might be something there.... and there wont be but i dont want to hurt him cuz i know he really likes me, so how do i tell him? 'lets be friends' i dont want to say it to him in a cheesy way... what would you do?

 

Ugh! I have the exact same problem with a girl. We were at a party, we got drunk and fooled around and now everytime she comes around, she hangs on me like I'm her soulmate or something. She was terrible and I'm not into her and it's worlds more complicated than that, but long story made short, no way. I know eventually the only thing to do is just be truthful.

 

You could tell him you aren't look for a relationship right now.

 

Thats what i was thinking because honestly im not! but at the same time if i do tell him that he will still think there is a chance... i think to much

 

Well, you know, even if he does still think there's a chance, the fact of the matter remains that there is no chance while you're not looking for a relationship, and if the right guy comes along, then maybe he'll be smart enough to figure out there's no chance at all.

 

You're flattered, but no. If he likes you, he is going to be disappointed anyways. Trying to let him down easy is preferred obviously, but a lot of the time you just haven't to be blunt, and to the point.

Otherwise, you could give someone false hope.

 

hmm the whole thing reminds me of the movie "coyote ugly" lol

hmm i guess you could say i already have a bf and it was an unforgivable mistake hope you forgive me but i'm not into the "cheating" bussiness, hmm *pats his shoulder* there's other fish in the sea you know...

 

Just be honest.
May seem harsh but it's even worse to lead someone on.

 

I used to get that problem):
Now the guys i kiss drunk at party don't talk to me very much XD
Possibly 'cos they don't know me and it was the first day we'd met. Oh Well XD

But in all honesty, i think telling him that 'you're sorry but you aren't looking for a relationship right now' is the best option. You should tell him that you don't want it to change things too.

Then whenever you see him and w/e, he should realise that you don't feel the same way (as long as you dont go getting drunk and kissing him again )

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P.S. I agree that it's worse to lead someone on. It's not fair on you because you don't really want them (in the nicest way possible) and its not fair on them because its giving them false hope.