Hello and thanks for reading this if you do. I guess I need an objective opinion about this situation. I'll start at the beginning. In June, I broke up with my boyfriend of four years. I am very happy to be out of that relationship and I had been ready to end it for a long while. After we broke up, soon after, I developed a "thing" with a good friend of mine that I've had a strong emotional connection with for @ 6 years. I should note that he had recently ended a relationship as well. I've been physically attracted to him since I first met him and he has admitted to having similar feelings for me. So, I decided that what happened between us was our "rebound" even though I have really strong feelings for him that have not gone away. We decided that we should break off the "thing" at the end of the summer because I moved back to school. He helped me move and stayed the night and I thought that was a nice ending. But I went home this weekend and we ended up sleeping together. So it hasn't ended completely. The problem is that I feel really connected to him emotionally and I'm not sure if he feels the same way. Not that sex is everything, but it's very enjoyable with him. At the same time, I'm afraid we might be destroying our friendship because we are having to hide from other people in order to do this because of repercussions we've received from drama created by ex's and their friends. But, I really don't want it to end. Yes, I am quite confused.
Hi there - I am probably the worst person in the world to give advice about relationships, but I think you just have to be true to yourself! If this guy makes you happy and you make him happy then screw the ex's and be happy!
What I think is, you need to sit down and have a talk with him. You need to find out where the relationship actually stands, and whether it will be going anywhere in the future. Tell him about the connection you feel, and see what his reaction is. I know that doing something like that is not easy, believe me, it's not something that you'll do without trepidation, but it's much better to know, than not to know. Good luck to you, and much peace.
Thanks for replying! So, I'm sure that the conversation may happen when he decides to ANSWER THE PHONE!!! Hopefully I don't offend too many people by saying that cancers are really weird sometimes. Granted, we all are, however.....crustaceans. fucking crustaceans, man.
