Should I tell my boyfriend I have a UTI?

Discussion in 'Sexual Health' started by spirit of the night, Apr 10, 2009.

  1. spirit of the night

    spirit of the night Senior Member

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    UPDATE!

    Thanks for all the advice guys :) I told him, it's all cool, he completely understood and we are going to try and sort it.

    xxx


    I think I get it from the condoms we use because it keeps coming back, I have tried curing it.

    I really don't want to disgust him or turn him off, but I want to be honest with him, I can't keep on like this, I need to do something and I am pretty sure it is the condoms.

    Would this be a bad idea? He said I can tell him anything.

    Thanks,
    xxx
     
  2. sidhardtha

    sidhardtha Member

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    Some people are allergic to latex or bandaids. I would try a different type of condom. I would see a doctor.

    Would he leave you if you told him?
     
  3. spirit of the night

    spirit of the night Senior Member

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    I have seen a doctor and she gave me antibiotics, which worked the first time and didnt the second time.

    And yes, I am going to use a different type of condom, and no, I don't think he will leave me if I tell him, I just want to know from people who have it if they have told their boyfriend and how they took it.

    Thanks, xxx
     
  4. FunkyPhreshMama

    FunkyPhreshMama Visitor

    i know it isnt the same but any girl problem i have i tell my husband about, i even told him before we even started dating just to gross him out LMFAO but it is good to be open in a relationship
     
  5. sidhardtha

    sidhardtha Member

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    I agree :)
     
  6. deleted

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    my ex only got a uti when they had lube on them.. its hard to get them with out some type of lube...
    Best thing she did was pee and wash up after.. Ive even got a uti's from the lube on them.. So when your BF gets that and need to drink cranberry jice till its coming out his ears, he prolly would have preferred to talk..
     
  7. RobynCB90

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    I didn't tell my boyfriend the first time I had one, but I did tell him the second time. He was fine with it and likes to know when something is wrong.

    As for taking antibiotics, I would suggest not to take them. If your on the pill, they cause it to become ineffective. Also a UTI isn't dangerous, it is only the side effects that are uncomfortable and cause for treatment. Lots of water and diuretics should help. garlic too.

    Don't worry about telling your boyfriend, it's not big deal if you're mature about it.
     
  8. Stephy in wonderland

    Stephy in wonderland Member

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    Lets think of it this way: If you end up not telling him, and he finds out, will he get mad that you didn't tell him about it? I would tell him.
     
  9. WildOrchid

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    A lot of women have UTIs when they first start penetrative sex - it's even called Honeymoon Disease. Take cranberry and d-mannose pills regularly, pee before and after intercourse. Taking antibiotic kills bacteria that cause UTIs but it leaves you vulnerable so they come back quickly. I had the same problem but the pills helped. Plus vit. C&B.
    Try changing condoms. If it's really condoms you can take steps to change them to other form of contraception. But first make sure you and your boyfriend are STD-free.
    It's not true that UTIs aren't harmless. First they start in your urethra – it itches and hurts when you pee – but it's bearable. Then they travel too your bladder – you are afraid to go to the toilet it hurts so much but you get the urge every 10 minutes or so anyway. Then it may go to the kidneys... Let's not even contemplate that. Be a good girl and take this problem seriously.
    As for telling – if you have strong UTI it makes sex painful. By telling your boyfriend you make sure that he knows how you feel and can understand you.
     
  10. fuckedwithaknife

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    its not like youre telling him you have an std or anything. uti's are normal, they just suck to have.
     

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