Looking for input here. A lot of people say love is "accepting the flaws in your partner." What if you don't? If one doesnt accept their partners flaws can they accept a future partners flaws...? At what point do you stop analyzing a relationship and follow your gut when its telling you that something isn't right? I think I find it hard because she is a good person, and we've had some good times. It just simply doesn't feel right at this moment. Thank you, kind folks.
ps i feel like i'm writing to the Dear Abby column or something. please refer to me as Confused in Chicago, haha.
Dear Confused in Chicago, You are really the only one who can tell. If you like her, but don't feel you love her, then you will break up with her. Maybe not now, maybe not tomorrow, but you will. The longer you put it off, the worse it will be for her. However, this is only if you know you do not love her and only enjoy her company or friendship. Not accepting some of her flaws is okay, as long as it doesn't irritate you constantly and as long as it doesn't put any strain on the relationship. It is really up to you, so think carefully. Abby
sometimes it's easier to just end it if you have any doubts...though i should probably take my own advice haha...but if there are some flaws you can't get over, then it isn't right. you'll know when you find that person you love because not only will you accept their flaws, you will adore their flaws
well I was recently in this situation so I can relate. If you know you aren't in love with her, end it. Tell her you could still be friends if you like her as a friend, but if you know the relationship isn't going anywhere, not only is it pointless to continue it, but it's mean to lead her on.
