Single moms

it kinda kills the talking. see? we got another post outta you.

yeah, i know a few of those single moms who just seem to go through life popping out more pups with every boyfriend then dumping them. but, at the same time, seemingly good relationships go straight to hell. people get fooled, people change, people develop diseases, addictions, new relationships. some of these things are going to heavily influence how well a person will choose a new relationship or whether they will at all.

 

Waking Life, if you are just dating, then that is all you are doing.

Treat her like any other woman you could be dating, and if the relationship starts developing into something more serious, then you can take that hurdle when it comes.

 

I can't be bothered with reading the rest of the thread so someone has probably allready said something similar but...

I wouldn't have any trouble raising someone else kid, and if it was young enough I'd probably make all attempts to raise it as my own, what would piss me off is having to deal with the father turning up every other weekend and complicating the fuck out of both the kids upbringing and your relationship.

 

This used to be the norm. Yes people change and relationships fell apart. But it was not that common. It was also extremely rare for a single woman to have a child because people knew (as they should now) that kids need both mom and dad to be a daily part of their lives growing up. But now, you can go get a book written by some unhappy bitch that explains that men are bad and women are good and fathers are useless when it comes to raising kids. Single mothers are put on a pedestal now and believe that they should be. That is the problem. Again, yes people change and relationships fail. But people are too ready to bail on a relationship at the first bump in the road. They only think of themselves. No one thinks about the kids, until they're so far gone that society has to do something about them. Then mommy starts to cry on tv and dad is still no where to be found. Relationships fail, but at least start a relationship before you get yourself knocked up. Get the relationship on solid ground before you get her pregnant. Earn it. It's worth it.

 

Yeah, cos a father who, after a relationship goes sour, wants to actually see his kid and have a hand in his/her upbringing should know to keep away and let the ex's new squeeze do his job for him.

 

My partner is a single mom. It does occasionally make me do things I wouldn't do otherwise, but usually it's no problem.

Like, last year she dragged me off to the brat's graduation from business school. And the year before that, it was his wedding, and even though it wasn't my fault, she told me I had to get dressed up in a suit! I said, let his dad wear a suit. And she said, I'm sure he will, but I want you to do the same. No arguments accepted.

I tell you, that kid is nothing but trouble. Watch out, guys. It could happen to you.

 

haha! :cheers2: i get along great with my husband's ex wife.

 

i actually agree. people DO give up too easily.

 

It is a really big decision. Just make sure she tells you what she expects you to be to the kid.

Dating is hard when you're a single parent. I got lucky. I only dated one guy as a single mom, and that guy is now my husband. I told him straight up that I was looking for a father for them. He said he told his friends about our first date, and although they had different opinions about the kids thing, every one of them said that they'd want to know something like that on the first date.

 

I don't want kids or to be a stepdad myself so it would be an issue. There are some men I've known who have been excellent stepdads however.