So I have kind of a unique problem. When I am with a girl it is hard for me to get a full erection. I am certainly aroused, but i just cant become fully hard. This problem has really hurt me, twice. The first time, I was about to have sex with a not so attractive girl and I couldnt get a hard on. I figured it was because I didnt find her attractive. But the second time it happened I was with a girl that i found very attractive and couldnt seem to get a full hard on in order to have sex. Both of us (especially me) were really disappointed. I dont have a problem with attaining an erection when I masturbate but it is hard for me to stay perfectly erect without constant stimulation. I am a young male who is in good shape with an average sized penis. I am really frustrated with this problem and want to know what to do in future situations.
Best cut down then- you'll have no problem I suspect when f***king comes around. Nerves can affect performance too.
Well, doesnt have to be a gay thing, if this hot girl is some fragile little thing you are too worried about getting rough with, then that might be it. Pretty doesnt equal sexy. But not every guy is the same, its not like they all go around talking to each other about having trouble with erection problems or premature ejac for that matter. Either consult your doctor, try a hot girl that can take a bit of pounding, or as Gumby said, see a dude
It may help to know your age. If you're a teenager, you should be able to masturbate several times a day every day and still have no trouble getting an erection when with a woman, but if you're maybe going on fifty (an older gent) you may have some kind of erectile disfunction that you may need to see a doctor about.
I doubt masturbation has anything to do with it. Erection happens in the mind and the cock follows along. I think I hear the old self fulfilling worries taking hold. You don't get it up as fast as you think you should, then you worry that something is wrong, and that worry clouds the mind keeping it from sending the signal. Then, without an erection, you worry what will happen next time - guess what About the best advice I can think of is to level with a gal. Tell her you've had problems in the past, and that you think it may be worry. Ask her to help you, ask her to have patience, try using your tongue down there, as she gets excited you may too. Of course this will require a woman who wants to help, because she likes you. But since you haven't given us much info, you prolly won't give much to a woman; you're too proud! So go see a doctor and get a prescription for Viagra. Without it you are doomed!
If you can get it going while masturbating, it's definitely a mental thing. Here's two things you can try. Forget about the outcome, and just mess around. If you take the focus completely of your penis (easier said than done), and focus on the female form next to you, an erection will show up eventually. Option two, take about 600 mg of yohimbe bark powder before you get down to it. This stuff is like over the counter Viagra. The downside is, there are side effects. Increased body temp, and heart rate, insomnia, restleness, etc.. I bet that once you get it up once with a female, this will all pass. It's all in your head....
does anybody have any advice to help me next time because im supposed to see one of the girls i mentioned (the hot one) next weekend and dont want to f-up again
google anxiety self-help. work on getting your anxiety levels down. try to focus on having a good time and not on orgasming. if you're having a good time, the orgasm will come.
