Childhood best friend and fuck buddy finding me on Facebook

Back when I was 11-12, I had this best friend named Larry. I initiated sex play with him, in the name of experimentation with the argument that it would feel good and we didn't know any girls we could trust. I'd been having sex play with boy and girl friends since I was 6, I was already a player! But it was longest, and best with Larry. We tried to have sleepovers every week, and played every time. Hushed, furtive touching, sucking, fondling, and humping under the covers in the dark. It must've been almost every weekend, for over a year. And we great friends, through it all. We were very much children. Not talking a lot about it, never getting romantic or talking about our feelings or about being gay. But not awkward, very close. Like Stephen King said in "Stand By Me", you never have friends again like the ones you had when you were 12. Larry's mother remarried and they moved away, and I was crushed. I think he was too. I visited him a couple of times when we were 13, before my family moved even further from him when I was 14. I asked him to do it, and then he said he didn't feel like he wanted to anymore. And his stepbrother was all over us, I couldn't seduce him.

It's 20 years later, and I have never stopped thinking about him. Suddenly a couple days ago, the account of a woman with his last name contacted me via Facebook, and the message said "Larry here: Did you ever live in..." the town where we knew each other. The woman's name is not the same as any of his family I knew, and her Facebook indicates she's married. He had contacted ME, through is WIFE's account, knowing what I could say and she could read first. I replied, but we haven't spoken yet. I loved him, he was my best friend ever. I've often wondered what he might feel about our experience. Whether he was straight as I suspected, and what he thought about us in that context. Whether he was ashamed, or maybe he even felt I abused him. Well, he was apparently looking for my name on social networking sites, so I think he must remember me fondly. Or God, could he be hoping to confront? But I'm so confused about his brass balls in using his wife's account. Did he forget/ block our sleepovers? How could that be possible?

I just want to ask you guys what you think about this. Impressions of his state of mind, or mine, or just impressions of what happened or what could happen. Or share similar stories, especially if you reconnected with childhood same-sex fuck buddies, and what happened, especailly if they were straight.

 

Certainly Makes You Think, Doesn't It.??

I'd Just Reply....Hi, Great To Hear From You After All This Time.

And Wait For Him To Make The Next Move.

And ,I Just Had A Thought, Could The Person With The Same Last

Name Be A Family Member (sister), Just A Thought.



Cheers Glen.

 

As I said, the woman's name isn't any of his family that I knew. It's not either his sis or step-sis's name. It'd be kind of weird to be over 30 and using the account of your sister, wouldn't it?

 

Perhaps He Was Just Sitting In Front Of Her Puuuuter

One Day When It Was On Facebook, And Thought Why Not.

I Have Never Used Facebook, But Perhaps He Can Protect Himself

With A Password Whilst Using Her Puuuter.??

But As I Said, Acknowledge The Effort He Has Made, And Leave

The Next Step To Him.

Good Luck...



Cheers Glen.

 

Is it possible that he's the woman? I mean thirty years can really change a person. I had a friend from highschool that I hadn't spoken to in years, he found me on Myspace and that is where I found out that he is now a she.

 

Suddenly The Plot Thickens...............



Cheers Glen.

 

Could he be the woman? LOL I hadn't thought of that. Big ups to you, Tish. I don't think so. Since this message I got confirms he once again lives in the place where we met, I searched his name and the town and I think I've found a pic of him at the web site of his workplace.

Whatever the case, I'll find out about who the woman is soon, when he responds to my reply. I didn't expect everyone to glom on to the potential identity of the woman, of all the things I wrote and spoke and asked about.

 

She does seem to have stolen the spot light. But I agree with Glen, see if he says anything. If he's going to confront you or cause problems, the great thing about the internet is that you can always delete him/her.

 

No Way He Could Cause Probs.

You Were Just Two Kids The Same Age Having Fun.

Had You Have Been 30 When He Was 12, Then I'd Say

It's Time To........................................:auto:



Cheers Glen.

 

Maybe not legal. But he could definitely be annoying.

 

He could also remember with fondness how close two boys once had been. Lots of men remember their childhood buddies and that intimacy. Contact him in a neutral manner as an old friend and see what happens. AND let us know please.

 

I'd be careful. Whilst sometimes it's good to know what happened to someone, it does sound a bit suspicious to me.

 

This is so interesting

please post his reply here too

 

Yeah, Facebook is creepy

 

Okay, here's the update. Me and Larry talked on the phone. He was really excited to talk to me, and we did some catching up on the big things that have happened in our lives since we knew each other (as I thought, the woman was his wife, btw), and reminiscing about all the fun we had as kids and what we meant to each other at times when both our family lives were difficult. He revealed that he agrees with me that we were really special friends, he said I was the last "best friend" he's had. He's eager for us to get together again as soon as possible. He still lives where we knew each other, and he said he wanted me to come and for us to go on a tour of the places we used to hang out, and where we each lived.

I put the brakes on, because he wasn't bringing up the thing that's eating me. I told him I was a basket case with social anxiety disorder, and I needed some time to work up to being able to commit to plans to see him again. Which is true. He was totally sweet, asking what he can do to break the ice with me, like for him to come to me first. And that he'd proceed at my pace, letting me make the next contact. We hung up, and now it's a few days later and I just emailed him, and laid it all out. That there was an elephant in the room that hadn't come up. The sex. I revealed that I always figured he was straight, especially after the onset of puberty brought him the maturity to decline to fool around again, while it just made me want it all the more. And that while I understood that, my perspective was that he was not only my best friend, but my first love. I told him I went on to be secretly in love with my next best friend throughout high school and a couple years after. That friendship was bittersweet, and only after it ended did I see how destructive it was for me to be in that kind of relationship. And so, I don't think I can be around Larry again. It's pathetic to be around someone you think of as an ex, and he never had any idea. It would make me feel even worse about myself than I usually do (as I said; basket case). What I didn't tell him because it might be insulting is that I'm actually a little bit afraid for more than just my emotional state. If I met him without bringing up the sex, then what if it turned out he'd blocked it? What if he had a flashback, or something? He told me he's now 300 lbs of muscle. Many a fag is dead because a straight guy thought their masculinity was threatened.

So... That's where it stands now. I said I'd like to have a reply, and maybe we could be email pals. And maybe one day I'll work my issues out, but I don't think it's a good idea to see each other any time soon. I'll let you guys know how he responds.

What, no one else has childhood sex buddy stories?

 

You have not had a reply from him since you mentioned the sex? So you don't know if he even remembers it?

 

No, I haven't heard from him yet. I posted to this forum only minutes after sending him the email to him where I laid it all out there. I felt afraid to just let it go and see him without bringing up the sex, because of how I thought it might be dangerous... Y'know, if he suddenly remembered or something, I could wind up tied to a fence in Laramie, so to speak...

 

That would not be cool. Much better to play it safe.

 

Lets just hope his wife doesn't read it first, eh?

 

I got his personal email, I kept quiet about it on his wife's Facebook. I don't want to get involved in marital drama, and have the class not to blab to his wife. I care/d a lot about him, and I don't want to reward his enthusiasm to find me by fucking up his life. And anyway, I really don't think his wife has anything to worry about now, and what he did as a preteen kid is so irrelevant and not her business.