Women in my life, Girl A who has been in my life off and on for a few years and Girl B who is new to town and knows nobody (Which is like a dream come true). They have both extended the offer to live with them, they both need the financial help. Thing is, Miss B has more feelings for me than I do for her- mine amount to nil. She is cool and everything, but more like a friend than a girl I am attracted to(no, she is good looking). So, I know the tension there would be inevitable, plus she has a daughter and I don't know what position I would be expected or even obligated to fill... She is 5 years older than I and I have also kept my drug use a complete secret from her, which poses a huge deterrent. Then, Miss A who I have been through a lot with and was with all day today(after not seeing each other but once or twice over the course of around nine months) for the purpose of catching up and re-establishing a dwindling friendship. We did a lot of talking, a lot of apologizing and a lot of flirting... Anyway, she mentioned she needs a roommate and wants me to move in with her... which would be great. Thing is, I haven't been looking for a relationship and do not want one. But I have to move extremely soon, so I'm in a bit of a fucked situation and may have to do a few things I don't want to do as they will taint my morale. Then there is my mom, who wants me to move back with her, but not for financial help. For an emotional crutch and an occasional whipping post when she mismanages her prescription.... For some odd reason I feel obligated to go with my mom. Well, end vent, or whatever. Just trying to get some shit off my mind and maybe make sense of it.
We have a long history, lived together for a while, were together longer. It just doesn't seem to work for us, it is a constant power struggle. We simply can't be in a relationship like that, it is much better as friends. And we both openly admit we still have major feelings for one another, are attracted to one another, etc. And it runs perfectly, but as soon as we get together, things get messed up. So, basically the problem is living with her would make it very hard to avoid getting together/hooking up. Shit, IDK, there is a lot more to it, complicated shit. Though, in all reality, I am probably gonna stay with her.
Yes, yes. But as the thread states: I am confused. I don't want a girl who will be totally submissive. Shit, I don't know what I want other than a Salami and Swiss Sandwich. :cheers2:
I'm hardly a relationship guru but some thoughts... People tend not to change and I would anticipate power struggles and various modes of territory issues with option A. I would advise a long period of extended serious communication with her before considering moving in. You've already furnished an abundance of reasons not to move in with option B. Issues as to whether you'd be expected to fill a father role aside, the disparity in feelings is an absolute deal killer. Your mom is a known quantity... I'd take advantage of her offer until you can financially get on your feet and move in a place by yourself. In my experience the best relationships happen when the parties aren't looking to hook up. "Trying" to meet someone makes most people subconsciously misrepresent themselves as an ideal that they aren't. A person's behavior is truest to who he is when he thinks no one is watching.
Or, Miss B can just dump you because it's bullshit. You're the one who asked me out. You're the one who said I'm falling in love with you. You're the one who offered the room mate thing. You're the one who said you liked my daughter and didn't mind her. You're the one being shady. Makes the decision easy, no? Maybe next time you're not so into someone, you shouldn't lead them on and certainly shouldn't tell them about your forums or suggest they get involved in them. Thanks.
I agree with stinkfoot, live with your mom. You are still young and that way can avoid all issues with these two girls. A: you tried it and it didn't work. B: a kid? you would def. need to figure out how that will work out. In the end this is your decision and I hope everything works out.
Sometimes I like to sit back, smoke a joint and laugh at myself. As well as the things I deem important for ten seconds and then prepare to jizz all over, all in the same hour. If I was shook, the Forums would never have been brought up. Have fun! EDIT: I do that all the time.
It doesn't bother me, because I wasn't the one trying to say "I love you" after a couple of weeks. What bothered me was I was afraid I'd hurt you by not being able to say it back after no time at all like that. And I couldn't even say it to you after that email I wrote. Intuition called BS and it was right. So next time you think a girl feels more for you than you feel for her, maybe you should read into things a little better. Just making up shit like that and feeding it to girls is such a cowardly move and the least manly thing a guy could do as well as the reason why girls tend to treat guys like such crap, because they've been burned by guys like you in the past. So next time a guy bitches about how a girl is nothing but a bitch. There ya go. Prime example as to why.
hahahaha wait...agentslander is Lady B? Oh man this is great! Talk with Lady A though - mom's might be a good financial crutch for you if you can handle living with a parent
Wow. Just wow. What loser invites their girlfriend to join a forum, only to talk about her behind her back and admit to having another woman in their life, whom neither you truly want. And then to do it publicly where she can possibly (and did) see it?... WOW... It sickens me to meet men like this. You're young though, so I hope you learn something from it all. I just wish it wasn't my friend that you fucked over. You could have just told her the truth rather then using her for your "needs." It's never right to lie to and/or use a woman for any reason. You seriously crossed a line here. I just have to say one thing. I think you're ignorant and immature, and need to do a little soul searching before you decide to move in with "Girl A" or your mommy. Hopefully it will do you some good. Oh yeah, and maybe stay off the drugs. That could do you some good too. So, maybe that ended up being more than one thing, but I could write a whole book about how big of a jerk you are, and it wouldn't matter, so who cares? Definitely not me, and definitely not "Girl B."
No he didn't which is what's pretty screwed up, since he asked me out two weeks ago. He also failed to mention how often he told me he had been praying for something like this to happen before we met, even though he said here he didn't want a relationship with anyone and how he wanted this to last a long time, take things at the right pace so it wouldn't screw up. Fed every line in the book. On top of it, one of his friends just showed up at my house assuming he was here because all of his friends assumed I was his girlfriend.
