Well, this is tremendously embarrassing for me to talk about, but I decided that I would see what others have to say about my problem before paying a doctor some huge amount just to tell me there's nothing he can do or some such nonsense. I was with my last girlfriend for over two years, and engaged for three months, but she finally called off the wedding and dumped me without giving a real explanation. I feel it's at least partially because I seem to have a sort of selective impotence. Before this developed in earnest (maybe 15 months ago) we had a good sex life, at least by my standards. It wasn't an every day thing, but when we were together it was very good on both sides. It truly began then, but had been coming bit by bit over a long time. I was no longer interested in sex at all, except perhaps once every month or two, and these times almost never coincided with when we were able to have sex. It frustrated the hell out of both of us, but we dealt with it for a long time. My job sucked and I had no real insurance. I couldn't afford to see a doctor. I've heard this is a problem guys older than me generally have, 40 and over specifically. Is it possible that a 24 year old has ED? I have blood pressure problems and I suspect the two issues are related. I recently quit smoking entirely and drinking for the most part because I heard these can contribute to ED, and also to high blood pressure. Other than that I'm very healthy. I'm muscular and thin; I've got a very physical job and it takes care of that for me, though I do work out some. What the hell is going on? Why is a healthy 24 year old male impotent most of the time? It's driving me insane. I think I lost a very good relationship due in part to this, and besides that, I want to have a sex life while I still can. Does anyone know anything about this? I'd be happy to take a pill if that would help, but I don't know if these medications are even available to someone this age. I am going to see a doctor about this very soon, but I'd love any input I could get.
So wait, you can get it up and keep it up, but you just dont want to that often? Or - you can get it up but cant keep it up, and dont want to that often? Or - you cant get it up even when you want to, which isnt that often? Or - you dont want to that often BECAUSE of some getting/keeping problem as per above? The only thing you say specifically is that you didnt want sex very often, nothing about ED in there. ED drugs will not give you libido you dont have, they wont make you horny, they wont give you an instant erection. They will merely let you get and keep one IF you are aroused as normal.
A lot of medicines, especially antidepressants, can cause symptoms similar to this. It might also be a lower rate of testosterone or some other hormonal imbalance that your doctor could help sort out. There are some medical conditions that could also cause ED in general (such has high blood pressure) that may need to be ruled out. Finally it could be a mental issue. You may have some repressed guilt about sexual activity, etc. It's also important to remember that everyone, male and female, have different levels of sexual desires and needs. Dont assume everyone else is fucking 20 times a day and since you cant there is something wrong. This might just be how you are and you may have to come to terms with that. Remember sex, total sex isnt a hard dick in a pussy (or wherever) thrusting until you cum and then you're done. Total sex is a myriad of intimate acts between people. If you cant become erect, then pleasure her orally or manually. Let her just give you a massage in return. Lie naked with your partner and just enjoy the physical and mental stimulation of various forms of touching. If you become erect during this then you can use it, if you dont - no biggie either. If it's a mental thing such as performance anxiety or performance pressure then focusing on it wont help either. Good luck.
Unfortunately, ED can strike at any age. Most guys will experience some form of ED at some point in their life. It's actually very common. Emotional issues can certainly play a role in ED. Those can be dealt with. You've taken great steps like working out and cutting out smoking. An ED drug like Viagra or Cialis might work for you. It would be to your benefit to talk with you doctor about it, and he can recommend treatment options.
Are you on blood pressure medication? Often the medicine can kill sex drive, and cause impotence. Another potential cause is anxiety. As long as you can have an erection, this is not your typical ED. Anxiety can cause problems gaining and maintaining an erection. Repeated issues can cause an avoidance of sex, perceived as low sex drive. I'm certain it's either medication or anxiety. It is very, very unlikely this is ED caused by poor blood flow.
