Hello all, this is my first post and its a question. I am a male teen and i have a close male friend. I'm pretty sure he is gay, (whereas i am not) as he is pretty good looking, and has never had a girlfriend, he sometimes comes out with some really gay comments, he also is almost chauvinistic. Anyway, we go to each others houses, watch tv, play (non-sexual games!). but he seems a bit eager to touch me sometimes, i don't mean sexually, but he has tried to stroke me before, i always retreat. (he tries to stroke me occasionally on the head and upper body area). I can get pretty horny, and i masturbate a few times a week on my own - no siblings, and currently no girlfriend. the thing is, i have always wanted to masturbate with another male, im curious what it would be like to jerk him (my friend) off, and for him to jerk me off. i sometimes have him over for sleepovers, and have thought about asking him,but im really far from doing so. i really don't want to ruin the friendship, because we always talk about sport, and its interesting! i cant really do that with many other friends. also, i still go to school with him, and do all the same subjects as him, so were in every class, but don't sit next to each other often. i don't want to ruin a school relationship and make things awkward at all! but i also don't want to give the wrong idea to him because i am assuming that he is gay! I would like to ask for advice on this situation; should i leave it, ask him, surprise him by touching him, i don't know! Thank you!
What's going to happen is that you two will wind up doing something together, whether it's j/o, mutual bj's, or much more... And one of you will get weirded out by that experience and never talk to each other again. Then when you get older in life after having lived a normal life by exclusively dating women, you will remember that experience and wish you could try it again. And that's when you'll discover you're bisexual.
Interesting! You are probably right, i might keep my (perhaps requited) feelings to myself because i don't want to know if i am bisexual, im very happy with women only, the last one just left me a bit bitter.
Don't give up hope... But then there's also nothing wrong with expressing and experimenting with other sides of your sexuality. Sometimes these feelings might not come out all at once. They may lay dormant for decades until something triggers them.
Well, It would be wrong to assume he's gay, so just ask him about it, and if he says yes, then well...i guess that would make your decision much easier lol. And, if he has tried to stroke you before, then maybe he has the same thing in mind. Just try to set things straight with him, tell him you're not gay, and that its just for pleasure.
I think if your interested you need to find someone who isn't a close friend. So you dont end up ruining friendship
Agreed with above post. I have a homosexual friend and he said he wanted to circle jerk one time and I never really liked him too much after that. He knew I was 100% heterosexual too and that's what really ticked me off.
The thing is, i'm not exactly trying to find someone to do this with, i just feel that he wants to do it with me, and i would like to reciprocate. I might ask him if he is gay, im pretty sure he is, but you never know. all my other friends think he is gay, and even in early secondary school, girls in our class thought so as well (when we didn't see him that way at all!) And he's the kind of person, if he was definitely gay, but you asked him, he may not tell the truth about it.
well you could tell him you've always wanted to jack off with another guy and then ask him what he thinks... admitting you've fantasized about it could help him open up more than just asking him outright.
Ian90210, by chance do you live in the 90210 zip code, or is that just a screen name in reference to the Beverly Hills 90210 show?
Haha, sadly its the reference. Thanks for all of your advice, but i don't really want to make things weird in the future, which i think will happen. So i'll just leave it
He really has to be gay, I'm 95% sure of this now, and he always manages to bring his cock up in conversations. He must be really horny, and so am I. We end school fairly soon but I'd rather stay friends with him during university as we get on very well, in a normal friend way. I really want to jack him off, but would this make things weird? Should i leave it to just before we get to university? Help!
If I were you, I would just stay away from trying to jerk him off. You say you're str8 and your friend is gay. If you jerk him off, that could very well connect him with you in an unhealthy way. You may not be interested in doing anything further but chances are that it could lead to something further. Ask yourself if you are ready to handle and deal with the aftermath? My good friend and myself jerked together but we did it individually and not to each other. It felt great but crossjerking is not something I am interested in doing. It sounds like you have been primarily caught up in the fantasy/curiosity of jerking him off. Sometimes things are not what they always seem to be. So keep that in mind. Also, we're guys. When we get horny, almost anything sounds good if we dwell on the thought long enough. You sound like a wise lad. LOL. Consider yourself first and foremost. I do love the username. Does it consist of "Ian" the actor from 90210 and the show's zipcode?
There's no such thing as Gay or Straight - Just varying degrees of Bi. Sexuality is not a choice, it's the way your hormones are balanced, and everyone, whether they be male or female has a combination of both male & female hormones in their system. The balance of these hormones determine the individual level of your sexuality. It's not unusual even for those who believe themselves to be totally Straight to find themselves being disturbed by fantasising about having Gay sex or being sexually attracted to someone of the same sex.
