Hardest question I've ever been asked - need love help

People today are too worried about saying what others want to hear rather than being true to oneself. You have to be true to yourself, before you can be true to anyone else. I'm tired of all the mannequins taking over this country

 

the correct answer is: our hearts are intertwined my love. i could never leave you for any reason.

 

My ex-girlfriend asked me this once.

I just ended up staring at her coldly for about 10 minutes.


Luckily, she was joking.



After that, I took her upstairs and broke her

 

i'd go with the poem lol as a girl if my boyfriend said that to me i'd giggle up a storm and fuck the boy silly

 

A few thoughts.
First off, there's nothing wrong with how you feel whichever way it is -- if you can imagine being with her without sex, great. If not, that's a fine feeling to have as well; there's nothing that says that the current relationship you are in has to be one where you are emotionally bound so closely that you'd stay with her no matter if you ever had sex. I think your own honest answer will help you define your view of the relationship, but you absolutely should not feel bad about however it is that you feel.

What I would try to consider, though, is what prompted the question. Maybe it's just testing you for the sake of testing. Or maybe she's insecure. Or maybe there's something else motivating it. For example, if she's had a marked drop in her sex drive lately, for whatever reason, she might feel embarrassed or ashamed or frustrated with it and is concerned what your response would be. Just one possibility of many. But my advice is to try to explore where the question is coming from. The better you understand her feelings, the better you can reply, or not even reply but simply support her in whatever way she needs support.

 

a problem w/ tapering off sex is this: thoughts like is she seeing some1 else? arise, other things may tend to arise; not holding hands, etc.. nowadays sex is associated with way too many things. & it tends to feed upon itself. & @ some point when sex may wanna be resumed on her part, a man may actually have lost sex drive( tho maybe not permanently). it`s not something that can be turned on & off like a faucet. & people nowadays sometimes seem to wanna be that way. this is what creates relationships in the first, tho sometimes people may like to pretend it isn`t that way. & that can be kinda fun in the beginning. but reality eventually sets in. & sex doesn`t necessarily hafta be on a regular basis of course. it just seems that an understanding that eventually having sex is easier to deal with, much easier than something written in stone. that can be sometimes what irritates me about women, writings in stone. quite often i see them overturned & smashed when they mood-swing. then it of course becomes a man`s fault.

 

I would probably answer it this way.

"I am not with you just because we have sex and I care about you deeply. However, if something has changed on your end and you suddenly stopped wanting to have sex with me, I'd be definitely worried about the direction our relationship is going. It's not about the sex but I don't think we'd last very long if we lost that level of intimacy."

It sucks that she put you in that Bull Shit predicament and unfortunately for you, you're right and there isn't a right answer. A lot of people here are saying that it's OK that she asked that question cuz "that's a woman for you" or something along those lines and I'd say to that, FUCK NO IT'S NOT OK! She's insecure and is testing you but why should she do that? Why is that excused? It shouldn't and you have every right to be pissed about being asked such a relationship killing question as that.

 

I think you should just put it in her butt.

 

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she thinks you only want her for sex. you have to prove to her that she's more to you than a sex object, and if she's not then break up with her

 

She just started using birth control so maybe

But the last 2 weeks it's been great. I basically said "Yeah I want to have an emotional relationship with you but I also want to have sex." (the actual conversation was like 2 hours long but that was the idea) She agreed and we have actually been having sex more now and she's more open about it than before, trying new things and stuff.

So I guess the best reply is just to stand your ground but reaffirm your love to them if you are ever asked this.

 

Is there any way to delete my own thread? Or have a moderator do it for me?

Cause I think she may be joining this forum and I don't really want her to read this.

 

Whoops – sorry I had a dozen or so tabs open and I must of clicked on the wrong one to post on… just as well it wasn’t too off topic

Glad to hear things are on the up and up!

[ I don’t think you can delete a thread once you made it – well I haven’t been able to find a way yet. can you just create a new account ? only if you don’t want her to read your past threads and post that is ]

 

Say thats called just being friends. Then say "Oh you just want to be friends? ok whatever." Then get up and leave. Remember that there is always something more than meets the eye when a woman says something like that.

If a woman stops having sex it means she is no longer attracted to you and breakup is soon to follow. I suggest that you dump her before she has a chance to dump you.

 

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Whats wrong with wanting to be that way? I can turn mine on and off like a fire hose.......and I love it!